My sister is 23 she has 2 girls, she lives with her fiance of 7 years and his parents. What should she do????

Question

He quit his job a month ago. His employer was taking advantage of him. He doesnt work and plays video games and sleeps in, and he hasn't been very motivated to get a new job. My little sister is sick of him not working with her towards common goals. She works an office job and doesn't make alot of money to support the four of them. My sister wants their own place. So now there is major problems the boyfriend feels very insecure about himself. He accuses my sister of not wanting to be with him anymore and he thinks she is cheating. She isn' t though. Very insecure. She has really just had it that he accuses her of these things and he isn't working. She doesn't know what she wants anymore either. She told him she wants a break. He told her she can move out with their tax returns. I love them both and I think they both need to make this work. It makes me sad to here they may be seperating. Also i think she's having hormone probs because she has had her period 3 wks.WHAT SHOULD THEY DO???

I CANNOT BELIVE SOME OF YOU THINK SHE SHOULD JUST LEAVE. THEY HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 7 YRS!!!!!! THEY HAVE 2 LITTLE GIRLS!!!!

I AM ON MY SISTERS SIDE NUMBER ONE. AND SHE ASKED ME TO SEE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THOUGHT ABOUT HER SITUATION, NUMBER TWO AND NUMBER THREE SHE HAS BEEN WITH HIM SEVEN YEARS AND ENGAGED ALMOST ONE YEAR. SHE DOESNT GO ONLINE SO THAT WHY I AM. WE ARE VERY CLOSE. MY PARENTS DIVORCED WHEN I WAS YOUNG TOO. I JUST DON'T THINK IT WOULD BE GOOD FOR THE GIRLS TO GO THROUGH THAT. IT WAS VERY HARD FOR ME WHEN MY PARENTS LEFT EACHOTHER .

Answer 1

They should grow up and start taking responsibility for their own lives!!! The more you "help" them, the more dependant they become! You can let her know that you love her and that you want what is best for her, but you cannot tell her how to live her life-that is her business!! They could probably benefit from some marriage counceling, and some tough love!

Answer 2

This may be something that you may not want to hear but you need to think about the best intrest of your sister and her children. If he like staying home then let him do it alone and see how well the bills get paid while his gravy train is not around. You need to support your sister and her decision because blood is thicker then water. It also sounds to me like your making excuses for her b-friend. There is no reason to quit your job when you have a family to support. Remember the last question that you ask..what should they do..well you need to step back and support your sister and nothing more.

Answer 3

First of all you should stay out of this yes it is family but they must work out this crap for themselves he sounds like a lazy butthead. You need to tell your sister that even though you would like to help this is something that your sister has to do with her fiance 7yrs and not married and 2 kids he sounds pathetic it is his responsibility to go look for work. Again express that this is something that you have no control over don't ruin your relationship with your sister over crap she is dealing with.
tell ehr you love her and if there was something you could do you would but it appears she has already thought of ways to leave if that is what she wants.

Answer 4

Try talking to her. I mean it seems that your sister had it. He needs to find a job or at least look for one. They have 2 kids so they need to think about those kids first. They also need to talk and find a way to make things work.

Answer 5

She needs to make a break for a while to get her head on straight. Her loser idiot fiance needs to get off his @$$ and get a job and quit worrying so much about what she's doing and his damned games, and you need to give your sis some emotional support.

Answer 6

She needs to dump that loser and leave him for good.