My bf is wonderful but we have one problem. His ex i have never liked it when my bf stays in contact with an ex, especially if they had chemistry just before we got together.
The thing is he went out with her then went out with another girl who he then got engaged with. Him and his fiancee then broke up and then he tried to get back with his ex before her. then we got together at the beginning of our relationship he used to text her and call her all the time which used to wind me up big style as he also talked to her on msn often as well.
Should i worry about this as he always seems to fall back on this girl. When we moved in together it became less probs now that they are both working an keep missing each other.
I dont want to stop him completely but he does always seem very happy when she acheives thing like getting pregnant but he didnt seem as happy when i pass exams etc.
im really worried that one day he will end up in her arms. Is this stupid thinking. as he has said that
2007-02-07 08:39:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he still loved her before me............... Is it possible for that love to still be there even if he denies it as i can feel something.
Or should i not listen to my head/Heart?????
2007-02-07 08:40:55 · update #1
i have asked why he doesn't make such a big deal about my stuff before and normally he just says its cus he dont see them as often (we do live together tho).
2007-02-07 08:53:53 · update #2
Whose bed is he lying in? Who does he come home to every night? They shared something obviously but it didn't work out. Make an effort to not be bothered about it as you could end up making him think that maybe they should be together. Just enjoy being with him, contact with her may peter out over time. x
2007-02-10 11:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dimples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not reassuring you that he won't end up back in her arms then he's not really doing enough to make you feel secure.
People need time between breaking up with someone before becoming friends so that they can let go of the feelings that they once felt. As he has not taken this time to put a distance between their relationship I would be wary.
You sound genuinely worried, not just someone who's overreacting and paranoid, therefore I'd recommend having a long talk with him about this where you both try to stay calm and explain what you're feeling and why.
If he's not willing to go out of his way to reassure you that it's only you he wants then I think you should seriously consider moving on and finding someone who is more dedicated and is prepared to leave their past behind in order to make way for a future with you.
Good luck
2007-02-07 08:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by some girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any thing built on a bad foundation will fail sooner or later. but you all ready know this. You have been given a lot of advice from others on this. Living with some one dos not mean you are on a good thing only that some one is geting some thing the are not geting from some one els not a good way to go about thing's be that as it may you would do well begine again with some one who has no bagage and is free to Love you the way you deserve to be loved not second hand. I don't know if this helps. I only hope you can work things out for the best. may our father God bless you and yours in the name of Jesus Christ I ask this Amen. IT IS SO. Peter William Lack.
2007-02-07 13:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps falling back to her for a reason. It would bug me too. It is possible to remain good friends with an ex, but this sounds more than just friends if he keeps hooking back up with her every time he breaks up with another. Maybe SHE is the reason he can't keep a fiance???????? Listen to your heart, but keep them eyes and ears open too for signs and signals of him creeping around with her. I would tell him how you feel too. Ask him why he makes such a big deal over everything SHE does and NO deal over what you do if you and him are an item now and she is just an EX as he says. I would understand if he made a BIG deal over your stuff and just a simple comment about hers, but the way you say it this is not the case.
2007-02-07 08:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all you can't compare a pregnant friend to a girl friend passing an exam.
Second if you love him you have to give him space to be him. Don't expect anyone but you to be all about you.
Enjoy the time you have with him and be attentive to his needs, but don't let him walk on you. If he leaves you then it was not destined to be. Have a good cry and get drunk once, then move on.
Show some self respect and be nice to her. Call her and say hi congrats on the baby. Help arrange the baby shower, show him that you do not feel threaten by her at all. (even if you do - never show it)
2007-02-07 08:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mike E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people never get over their ex. If he is still thinking about her, talking about her, meeting with her, etc, you should be worried. My best friend's wife just dumped him after 5 years of marriage and 2 kids for her ex. You just never know.
Ask him what's up. His reaction is more telling than his words. You might want to ask him to invite her over for dinner. If it's an innocent friendship he will think it's a good idea. If there is trouble brewing he will come up with excuses to avoid you all being together. Best of luck. Remember that cats make wonderful companions.
2007-02-07 08:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by aGhost2u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. Your last sentence says it all honey: He will end up in her arms if he wants to (and you mention that he has said that). You can't control him or her, or what they decide to do (in front of you or behind your back). Stressing and worrying about a playboy will not make him any less of a womanizer. Loving him harder and louder will not make him stay. Read what you wrote, there is at least 3 different women mentioned in an extremely short period of time. Your situation is a disaster in the making... Sorry.
2007-02-07 08:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Nutzzzzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may still have some feelings for her but not be in love with her,my ex told me i will always have aplace in his heart as i`m the mother of his child and he loves me but isn`t in love with me anymore and i kinda feel the same about him,we were each others first loves and spent 6 years together so i guess we will always be special to each other,but that doesn`t mean to say that we wont feel that way about other people in the future.
I`d talk to your bf and find out id he does still have any feelings for his ex,if he does then theres no point in being with someone who is never gonna truly be yours.goodluck.
2007-02-07 08:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I was in the same position not to long ago. I used to get SO upset when my boyfriend talked to his ex. The best thing to do is tell him that it bothers you, let him know how you feel every time they talk. I bet what's bothering you the most is the fact you know he's known to run back at her, you have to think of yourself as someone worth him staying. But the best thing is communication.....good luck....if it makes you feel better I'm engaged to the person that I once thought was going to run back to his ex.
2007-02-07 08:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your head. And move out. He's in love with someone else.
2007-02-07 08:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋