Wy dont parents want theie teenage kids becoming sexaull active from mid teens?

Question

Ok not nec having sex but having boyfriends etc.


ie instead of going ewwu parents don't do that...


Why arent' teen kids happy when parents are playfully affectionate and making out and obviously still doing it.


So it means they wont divorce and love each other.


Whilst thinking if they dont they dont love each other and will divorce.


Likewise instead of some silly notion of protecting sisters...

Why aren't brothers trying to set up their sis with mates to help her get boyfriends so not all upset that nobody wants her and her thinking she is ugly and hurting herself or contemplating suicide if the annorexia does not make her thin enough to get a boyfriend


Likewise parents panicaing over the same thing... wanting very much sis all happy and sparkly and rushing to the phone every time it goes off all happy and huggy with a bf.


Likewise why arnt parents worried that if son does not get a boyfriend he will never find love and only be able to shag hoooker

Taking into account proper contraception is used ie more then one type...


Dont parents realise the damage abstenance does...


Ie most of the guys who can only find affection in hookers or strippers have had parents who help them back likewise girls in abusive relatioships or who are now annorexic to try and get thin nough to find love if not attempting suicide...


Always being the ugly, needy, immature one nobody wants so everyone else couples up and advances till they can only pull much younger people and considered pervey for that but cannot relate to anyont their age with long term relationships ?

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PS can spell but typing sucks looking down at keyboard

As mentioned this is from mid teens ie 16/17 upwards or below but not going all the way...

This may just include kissing

And looking more from and emotional angle and growing up

No dont have kids...


But analysed how the kids I knew with open hippy type parents all did well, those with repressive moral, head in the sand parents all got fucked up

Answer 1

I like your writing style -- It's called stream of consciousness. That's the only way some of us can get our thoughts out.

Good questions. Mid to late teens is supposed to be the height of sexuality, when everything feels (and works!) the best. It seems so hypcritical that adults who can and do have sex whenever they want tell kids that they can't. And no one seems to be aware that kids are physically maturing earlier every year, so that they enter puberty even before the traditional ages of 12-13, whereas it used to be as late as 16-17.

Boy-girl sex is nature's way of making babies, and it puts some pretty strong sex drives in them to make sure it happens, even if the boy and girl are really trying not to make a baby but still make themselves feel good at the same time. That's one concern that parents have, that no matter what things they do to not make a baby, having any kind of sex with each other too often leads to pregnancy anyway.

Another concern is that sex is a pretty powerful feeling and emotion. It makes you feel like you're in love when you may not really be. People get their feelings hurt pretty badly sometimes by having sex with the wrong person or at the wrong time or when they're pressured into it when they're not ready. That's another reason why parents want their kids to wait until they're older.

Seriously, not having sex when you're young does NOT mean you'll never find someone when you're older or that it will "damage" you somehow (nice try, though!).

Some brothers seem to go overboard "protecting" their sisters (one boy I know of actually shot his sister's boyfriend while they were in bed together). Most brothers just don't seem to think that anyone could ever be good enough for their sisters.

Your questions aren't new, but everyone should talk about them more, teens and adults. It helps to know what everyone is thinking and feeling and to get your own thoughts out in the open. Sex is powerful and mysterious even to adults, and they don't always make the right decisions regarding it. But trust me, they do know and remember what it feels like at your age. They really aren't just being ogres about it.

Answer 2

do you have kids of your own??
as a mum of 3 girls, i want them to form healthy relationships, and i want them to explore their sexuality in an appropriate manner as they grow up!
trouble is, some parents had troubled upbringings themselves, some are just weird, some too repressed and worried, most of us are confused!
the way our society is used to dealing with these matters is mostly the fault of the victorians...before they reared their weird heads we were a lot more relaxed and open about things! and the effects of the nanny state/big brother does not help.
as mere mortals we probably are not going to get it exactly right 100% of the time, hopefully we will manage to get by, not mess up our kids too much, and until we find a solution to brothers and sisters not feeling "yuk" about each other and their friends, then i don't think they're gonna help set each other up on dates!!
you seem to have lots of opinions and wide open questions - what do you suggest?! and again, do you have your own kids?

Answer 3

What exactly are you asking ????

Answer 4

WHAT IS IT YOU WERE ASKING?