I posted before about a man that hit on me but for others who didn't read it, I'll give a shorter version. I work in a gas station with my fiance. An older man (64) that we are "friends" with comes in all the time and talks to us. He asked me to come over because he made food for me and my fiance, for me to take home. While I was there he kissed me multiple times, slapped my butt, made sexual comments, and asked me to have sex with him. I obviously said no because I'm engaged and I'm only 21 and I didn't want to. Anyway, a few days later he apologized and when I asked him why he did it he said "it was a compliment to me" and that I could come over anytime I want. Now that my boyfriend isn't talking to him he has changed his story. Today he he said that he kisses everyone like that, then he said he wished I hadn't told anyone. Everything he's saying is conflicting. I am worried that he may try to stalk me, or rape me. He knew damn well what he was doing and tried to make feel guilty.
2007-02-07 08:07:29 · 14 answers · asked by bookworm1885 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Am I any danger?
2007-02-07 08:20:11 · update #1
gross gross gross...64 year ole perv.....you never should have gone to his place alone....but you figured that out the hard way...not much you can do now except ignore him...
2007-02-07 08:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have already gotten some great answers, but if there is ever an occasion where you have no choice about being alone at work, or anywhere out in public where there is a potential for this man attacking you, then have some pepper spray with you!! It saved my life once!
I'm not sure what the laws are regarding pepper spray from state to state, but unless you need to use it, no one knows you've got it, and if you DO need it, going to jail is a heck of a lot better than being raped!
This guy is absolutely bad news!! Police may not take you seriously unless he has actually done something, but don't ignore the bad feelings you have about him. What he did and said to you was NO compliment... it was insulting and abusive! Stay alert and protect yourself!
Oh, and the pepper spray comes immediately after a knee very firmly applied to the nads!
2007-02-07 08:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rape is someone forcibly having sex with you without your consent. If he kissed you and you didn't want him to, you should have high tailed it out of there, not waiting for him to slap your butt and giving him the oppurtunity to ask you to have sex with him.
I am not saying you are the guilty party, he should never have done those things, but it is definately not rape. If he worries you that much, talk to you manager about banning him from the gas station. The store owner can get a ban for anyone who has just cause.
Your best bet is to never work alone, and never ever go back to his house, even with your fiance. He is no friend of either of yours.
2007-02-07 08:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by rothe_jabbuk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are NEVER alone at work. Tell your boss about this creepy person and make sure the schedule always includes someone with you. If this man knows your route home, or where you live, the same advice applies. It doesn't sound like anything he's done is actually criminal, but notify the police anyway, see what advice they might have. Is there a "neighborhood watch" group in your area? Get them involved too.
2007-02-07 08:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Avoid this man at all costs. If you truly feel threatened, then definitely make the police aware of this (they won't do anything until a crime has been committed though). In the meantime, be extra careful when you are out by yourself and carry pepper spray!
2007-02-07 08:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an old pervert. Just stay away from him and do not accept any more offers for food or anything else. Tell you boyfriend that you are not comfortable with this guy anymore and to keep an eye out for you.
2007-02-07 08:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A very simple answer, why worring, the worst thing that could ever happen to a man like me, is to get hit in the balls, so when this guy come near don't be affraid, just punch his balls with your knees, he will go dwon in a winck of an eye. and good luck..............
2007-02-07 08:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by munir 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i grow to be once grabbed from in the back of via a guy at the same time as i grow to be out walking on my own. i did not hear a element at the same time as he approached and he took me via marvel. I managed to flee regardless of the reality that. there have been a handful of peculiar situations over the years, yet not something else like that different one.
2016-12-03 20:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would make it clear to your fiance what happened then go file a sexual assault complaint with the local authorities so he will then be on records of sexual assualt. You may also want to get a restraining order on your house and place of employment. then he will have to find someone else to stalk.
2007-02-07 08:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u need to tell the cops are sumthing cuz like u said he knew damn well wat he was doing, he had no rite to touch u like that...so i say go & tell the cops cuz if u don't he will get the best of u & he could end up doing this to u again or to some one else...
2007-02-07 08:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by crazysmith187 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋