When i come over to my friends house she lies to her mom about it andi hate lieing to her mom as well
2007-02-07 07:57:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think that you should stick by her side...
The best thing to do is to encourage her that she needs to tell her mom....
If something was to happen to her, her mom would need to know....it is best for her safety and the wellness of the baby....
Her mother will help to ensure that the baby is taken care of with prenatal visits to the doctor....
And she needs to know that the woman she is faking around is going to be the woman that will stick by her side through thick and thin...when the baby is sick...her mom will help...her mom will help babysit, cook, clean, and feed her and her baby....
This situation is bigger than her being scared of letting her mom know that she had sex....and got pregnant...
The situation is about bringing a healthy baby into the world....and she is punishing her baby by not giving the baby every chance to be accepted and have a happy and safe environment to be brought into...
There are a lot of teen moms out there...there is no need for her to feel like she is the only teen mom in the world....
Just encourage her that she can do it...she can tell her mom...and it will be o.k.
Her mom will be upset at the fact that she is devistated to hear the news...but she will get past that...because the baby is not the problem...the problem was what she did to get the baby....
She also needs to tell her mom so that she is able to accept the pregnancy and bond with the baby for the next few months that she will be carrying it....
Contact me if you need support sweetie...I pray it works out!
Also, encourage her to become celibate after the baby...it will keep her from having these problems again...because it can happen...
2007-02-07 08:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old is your best friend? If she is under 18 years old, I encourage you to encourage her to tell her mom about it, but I understand this is not an easy situation. It is very important that you are supportive of your friend and that you respect her wishes and keep her secret, until or unless it is jeopardizing her physical health. You need to tell your friend that you want to be supportive and that you love her and that you're there for her. Tell her that you are really uncomfortable with lying to her mom and that you need her to understand what a difficult place she has put you in. Also, invite her to come to your house or meet somewhere other than her house so you aren't consistently putting yourself in the situation of having to lie to her mom about this.
2007-02-07 08:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by minfue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can make her tell, that's her business, but you can tell her that you refuse to be part of the deception. Tell her that you are not prepared to lie for her and you would rather she didn't lie to her mom in front of you. You could also try pointing out to her that her mom will find out eventually putting off telling her isn't going to make that conversation any easier. When is she planning on telling her? as she delivers the baby on the bathroom floor?
2007-02-07 08:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your friend? I would ask your friend why she won't tell her mom. It is very important that her mom know because she needs her families' support. I would find out if maybe she would like you or another adult to be with her when she tells her mother. I would hate to be in your position too, I would feel the need to tell her mom too, but your friend needs to be honest with her mom and if it comes down to the fact that she is waiting too long, you may need to step in and inform her of what is going on.
Good luck.
2007-02-07 08:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by Important 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can really do is sit down with her and explain to her that she needs to tell her mother. If she's underage or unmarried, then she needs to tell her soon. The longer she waits the more chances there are of her mother being angry for keeping it from her. Also she needs to be under the care of an OB and be on prenatals. If it's one of those cases where the parents will be angry then the sooner she tells them the better, that way they'll have more time to get used to the idea of the baby comming, and not just feel like they were just told and BAM the baby is here.
2007-02-07 08:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She should tell her mom. YES her mom will be angry and disappointed for a while but will also should step up to help her girl. If her mom is not a responsible mom. Please take her to a pregnancy outreach center. She may also have a disease that could harm the baby or herself. They will help her. This is what they do best. She needs to do this as soon as possible to take the best care of her and the baby.
2007-02-07 09:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is she going to do when the baby comes?
If she doesn't want the baby and is planning on abandoning him, there is something called the "safe haven law". Your friend can leave the baby at a hospital or firestation anonymously within 72 hours of the babys birth. They will make sure the baby is properly taken care of and your friend cannot get in any trouble.
2007-02-07 08:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Avoid her Mother, then. Your friend will have to tell her Mom eventually, because a pregnant belly, and broken water can't be hidden. Besides, her Mother will be the One and Only person who can help her the most through this.
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2007-02-07 08:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by twowords 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to tell her mom....If her mom really cared she would make her take a test in front of her. Or you tell her mom. What would you rather be...the bad kid or the good friend? Talk to her and help her tell her mom. She needs to go to the doctor andshe will need her mom to help her out.
2007-02-07 08:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats the reason for not telling her? She has to be scared of something?
You either need to tell her that she needs to talk to her mom, or you'll tell her mom for her. The worst thing she can do is be dishonest.
It's her mom, she has a right to know.
2007-02-07 08:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Loveable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋