I make sure ,he got our dauther pictures, also my pictures i mean i put it inside his luggage ,he went to the Hotel and when i came home
I had the great idea to check the closet and guess what? First of all ,he put back all of the Baby pictures ,he put back all of my pictures in the closet and then he took his pictures without leaving even one for the baby.
What should i do ,call him and ask him why?
And at the same time ask him to give me 1 0r 2 of his picture for the baby ?
Don't think it's because he doens't really love the baby?
Or just don't do nothing at all?
2007-02-07 07:39:59 · 29 answers · asked by BOOKEY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave him alone unfortunately the most important thing in his life at mo is the drugs and until he realizes you and your child are far greater than any drug he will carry on recking his life and if you let him back he will wreck yours and your child's you cant help him he can only help himself
2007-02-14 08:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by simkem3064 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the baby not having any pictures of daddy! Just let your husband go, and you be strong and take care of that baby! I had to deal with a similar situation in my life, and at the time I couldn't understand how anyone could be so terrible to the one's who loved him, BUT I finally learned that his addiction was just that...HIS addiction, and nothing would ever change until he could come clean on his own. I'm sorry to hear your story, because I understand how your heart must be breaking, but honestly you will make it through it, and be a stronger, better person and parent because of it all. Just love that baby with everything you have in your heart, and that baby will grow up to know that mommy will always be there no matter what life throws at her. God will only deal you what you are able to deal with...remember that! I wish you the best! As far as the photos go, don't do anything about that right now. It's really not important at this time. No matter what happens with daddy and his addiction he's always going to be that baby's daddy-and time has a way of making sense later on. God Bless you and your baby!
2007-02-07 13:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the pictures, if you really care try and get him some professional help, he might not know what he is really doing do to the addiction of the drugs but at the same time he can only change if he wants to and sometimes it to late. Your focus should not be about the pictures it should be about your life with the baby and remember you might have to do this on your own until he cleans his act up. Reality is he might never change until it's to late cause of death, jails, or mental institutions, that is the only road for a druggie if he don't change.
2007-02-14 06:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by elrey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but I think you should leave it alone and do nothing at all. I really hope that your husband will seek treatment. You did absolutely the right thing in having him leave the house due to his addiction. It's not healthy physically, mentally, or emotionally for an addict to be around you or your baby.
Maybe, someday, your husband will seek the professional treatment he needs, kick his habits, and get his life together enough that he'll be able to have contact with your child - or at least where it will be safer/healthier for you to contact him and ask for a few photos for your child.
Sounds harsh to say what I'm about to - but it's true - as long as he is a using addict, not in recovery, he doesn't need to have any contact with you or the child.
Best wishes for you and good luck for the future of you and your baby.
2007-02-07 07:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs to feel what he has lost than to see it maybe he doesn't want you to remember him as a junky than the person he was when you first met him. You can call and find out if it bothers you so much but i would leave it alone until he was ready to get himself together you calling and asking about pictures is not what he needs to get through this you should be asking why he's not in a rehab an f the pictures.
2007-02-07 07:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all human and do things without taking the time to think about them. Your husband was probably hurt (especially if he doesn't see his drug addition as a problem) that you asked him to leave. He is lashing out in a non-violent way. Give him time. When he accepts his addition and seeks help he will see what he has done. You did the right thing, especially with a young child around. Keep praying for him and continue living life for you and your child. You may even want to seek counselling from AlAnon. They are very supportive in this kind of situation. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-07 07:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by tersey562 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should probably leave it for the time being, to be honest, it sounds as if you're disappointed that he left the pictures of you behind, and that you don't have one of him. you wanted him to go and he's gone, whatever problems the drugs were causing have obviously brought you up to the point where you don't want to live like that anymore, causing a fuss over a few pictures isn't really going to change things. aside from that I'll bet that you could get a few photo's from family or friends to get you and your baby through this difficult time. i think you'll be sending out the wrong signals to him if you start calling him over quite trivial matters. i do hope you both work things out, good luck, sue
2007-02-07 07:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by sue brew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing. But I didn't force my pictures onto him for fear of them getting into the wrong hands. He probably left them so he wouldnt be reminded of his failures and took his because he's paranoid you might give it to the police or if someone came looking for him you wouldn't be able to show what he looks like. Try asking his family for some photos and maybe asking them for help and setting up an intervention to get him some help. Addicts are paranoid and they don't think right and he needs help so maybe for you and your family sake getting him help will bring your family back together. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-02-07 07:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by aladyforyou@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he knows what you are doing by putting those pictures in and his taking them out is a reaction to that. He obviously thinks you chose not to be there when he needs you now. Keep in touch with him, let him know you still love him (if you do) but only cant bear his addiction. Give it time
2007-02-15 01:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bother for an explanation, just leave well enough alone. His moving out because of his drug addiction is good enough for now. Maybe he will get clean and give you something to show the baby eventually.
2007-02-07 07:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your husband is a drug addict. He doesn't make rational decisions, his choices make no sense.....neither do most of his actions. You will NEVER know why he did that, he will never be able to explain it to you so that you understand or even feel better about what he did.
You told him to leave, that's a big step. Now, stay stong and don't call him....give him the chance to clean himself up! Take care of yourself and your baby.
2007-02-07 08:20:00 · answer #11 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋