Are ALL men this mean and insensitive?

Question

I would call my husband "emotionally abusive"...He is so mean to me. He yells at me, ridicules everything I do and acts like im a child. He raises his voice at me and his face gets red. Am i just being idealistic to think that that men shouldnt treat thier wives this way? Im not a bad wife. I stay home and take care of our 7mo old daughter and keep a very clean house, and cook almost every night for him. Last night, at 3;30am he had indigestion and he told me to go get him som tums ( i already am sleep deprived because im the ONLY one who ever gets up with the baby) so i didnt argue i just went to look for them. I looked everywhere and finally went back and told him i couldnt find them and he threw the covers off, got out of bed said " the ****!" " did you even look!"...Im so hurt when he acts like this. I dont want our daughter to grow up thinking its ok for men to act like this....anyone think im being to sensitive or am i right?

Answer 1

I have a couple of questions for you..has he always treated you like this? Is there an age difference between the two of you? Last question, if he was not always like this..is there something that may be stressing him out?

If you answered yes to the first two questions then you need to get out. The third question..maybe he needs some time to deal with his anger by himself...maybe you can the baby can visit your family.

I was in a abusive relationship for 3 years and I had someone tell me the same thing that you just said..they ask me this; do you want your boy's growing up thinking that this is right?" Of course not..noone does! If he is like this now then it will only get worse with time. I think it gives them power to belittle a woman.

I am now with my future husband..many years later and alot wiser...and I know that if anyone ever speaks to me or treats me the way that my ex did I would leave in a heartbeat. You have to find your strength if you do not think he will change.

To answer your question..no not all men are like this, the man I am with now is the exact oppsite of my ex..and I like it like that. My new man is respectful, considerate towards me and my children, and the most important thing I have learned is that he loves me for me and accepts the little things I do that drive him crazy.

Answer 2

What a JERK I used to be.....this man is me 15yrs ago.
I never really intended to be such an arrogant cow, and didnt realise just how cruel and soul destroying my mouth could be until I did a programme on conflict resolution.
My wife was damaged by my continual put-downs and I was handicapped by my lack of communication tools.
Nobody should be made to put up with unacceptable abuse, and from the mouth comes the greatest of all methods of mental abuse.
The reasons differ from man to man when it comes to how a man displays his own lack of self esteems, but there is normally a verbally agressive component.
Because men supress feelings, it is culturally inappropriate to speak of matters which represent weakness to our peers, and having been conditioned not to explore our sensitivities beyond a certain boundary, we are more likely to die of stress related illnesses long before a woman.
We dont even know what we need to fix about ourselves, but instead we go on pretending the problem is someone elses.
We get ulcers at 3am, our bodies try to tell us things, we get irritable, verbal etc etc.
We are not all this mean......Most men are this tortured by insensitivity.
Your husband shows all the symptoms.
The cure ?
He needs what is good for him, you need what is good for you.
But the put-downs, and yelling and verbal abuse is unacceptable and must stop !!!!!
Your daughters life depends on it.

Answer 3

yes u r right he is abusive

i wish u r my lady.....
no i dont abuse my wife....but she is opposite
i mean she is very lazy