An old flame is getting married to a not so good person soon. I am so upset. It's been ten years and I still have something for him, and no other boyfriends. Am I crazy. The faince is a known cheater. I cannot stop thinking about it. Am I crazy? What should I do?
2007-02-07 07:28:05 · 19 answers · asked by smiley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are not crazy. I have similar feelings about an old girlfriend from college that is marrying one of my frat brothers this spring...
2007-02-07 07:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not crazy, even though it has been 10 yrs you still feel something, it may not be love or anything but that fact you know they are going to marry someone who you know is not a good person makes you upset, i would not suggest trying to do anything about it, just hope the old flame sees the problem before its too late. Im sure he will see her true colors eventually!
2007-02-07 07:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let it go!! I know that isn't the answer you wanted, but it is true. If he is making a mistake, he will have to discover that for himself! Nothing you do or say will make a difference.
Letting him know how you feel about him isn't necessarily a bad idea, you just need to be very careful how you go about it. Don't make it appear as though you are trying to break up his engagement, because that would just piss him off. Instead, congratulate him on his engagement. Make him think that you are happy for them. You could say something like, "She is a lucky girl! You will make a great husband. Too bad I was too dumb to see that 10 years ago." Come up with something that will let him know that you are still interested without makng it appear as though you are trying to break them up. That way, he will know how you feel in case they don't work out. Good luck!
2007-02-07 07:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to let this guy go....what else are you really going to do...show up at the wedding and speak up when the minister asks if anyone has reasons why these two should not be married?!! seriously...even if you had the chance to speak with your old flame, he's not going to ditch getting married for you, I mean, there's a probability, but if you were sitting in front of him saying all this, there would be a good chance he'd think you're crazy, yes....
2007-02-07 07:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to at least tell him how you feel I went through this not to long ago I still had feelings for my high school sweetheart this was back in 1988 and I wanted to tell him for so long that I loved him and cared for him but I was afraid of rejection so I never told him he was murdered November 2006 I think about him all the time and I regret everyday that he died not knowing my feelings for him. Just tell him how you feel and what ever happens happens. Good luck
2007-02-07 09:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by leoslady3900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u r not crazy u r just in love n that is esay to see!!
What u should do is try to talk to your old flame...that's if u r not scared of admitting your true feelings and if u still know his number.So, if u do decide to take my advice let out your feelings and explain to him about marrying this CHEATER is a big MISTAKE!!!!
2007-02-07 07:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Might as well forget about it because he has made his mind up.If you are lucky maybe he will wise up before then and realize that something ain't right.It could be you who comforts him if you play your cards right.You could also see him in passing and mention that she doesn't know just how lucky she is to be getting him.At least this way he will know that you still think of him.Never know it could change his mind before the big day.
2007-02-07 07:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding and when it gets to the any objection bit shout yes she is a tramp and tens years on i still have not gotten over him or found a new boy friend. I am lame and want him back as he is my only good memory. I have totally forgotten why we broke up.
2007-02-07 07:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree..find some way to have closure with that relationship, it sounds like you have let this rent up way too much space in your head... and your life if you haven't dated for 10 years..he is going to have to find out for himself what she is all about..you should call him and tell him how you still feel..maybe you need to hear it from him that there can be nothing between the 2 of you..that would help me get closure
2007-02-07 07:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO....you are not crazy...I `ve been married for 13 yrs. and I would hate for something like that to happen to an ex-boyfriend I still care for.. I think is natural..
2007-02-07 07:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by gaucha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋