help please what would you do if your boyfreind of 8 yrs wanted to go work somewhere else ?

Question

heres the scenerio :
hes best friend works as a production driver for a model picture shoots- so he asks my BF if he wants to take a job as a driver, since my BF is currecntly unemployed - heres the thing we moved 6 hours away from where hes freind lives so we could save money and not pay rent ( we own a house in Tijuana Mexico)
so now, my BF wants to take that job and tells me i woudl go too , but heres what im not happy about- he would be around supermodels all day for at least 14 days picture shoots at a time , and it defeats the purpose fo us moving to mexico to not pay rent and now he says we would have to find a place to live at ! he thinks im not "being soppurtive" and that he would make "a lot " of money taking that job-
i say he just wants to be around supermodels all day and says that as an excuse- what do you guys think?
thanks in advance

oh and get this, the house we live in right now, was paid for by hes parents - the plan was that we where to pay them back when we can - and thats why im so pissed that he wants to move back to where we used to live at ! when we havent even paid hes parents back yet !

Answer 1

honestly, after 8 years you should be able to trust your BF. i understand you need to save money, buy if he is going to make good money, then you should support him. don't look at this in a negative way, thinking he wants to be around supermodels all day. the drivers do actually make good money and he would be able to take care of you. just trust him, at least he didn't tell you that you couldn't go with him. most men in that position wouldn't want their girls tagging along. good luck

Answer 2

you either have trust or you don't. Is it the supermodels that is bugging you or the fact that moving would be you would have to pay rent, again.? If my byfr is doing something that can bring in some more money to where you can save money and have a more comfortable place. It's about what is the real reason and how you are going to include this into what is already there.

Answer 3

I hardly think a job as a driver is worth moving for. Doesn't really sound like a career opportunity. It also seems silly since you just moved. I wouldn't go for it if I was you. Him being around models all day is completely irrelevant in my opinion. If you've been together for 8 years and you still don't trust him, maybe this isn't the guy for you. It's not like he has to take a specific job in order to see beautiful women though, they're everywhere. Maybe you should have a little more faith in him.

Answer 4

he could also hate being unemployed and just want to take advantage of a pretty sweet deal. find out how much money he'd make - exactly. he shouldn't go until he knows that. then figure out the rent situation. if him getting this job but having to pay rent would still work out better for financially consider it. you've been together 8 years - trust that he loves you and that a couple needy hig maintenance models won't be enough to get him away from you. And if you have reason to not trust him, you should be rethinking being his partner anyway.

Answer 5

If he's unemployed, let him get any legitimate job that he is offered.
Better for him to earn an income (more than expenses to do so) than to live rent free.

Unless there's work available where you live, he's going to have to go where the work is. Tell him you will join him after he's making enough money for both of you to live on.

The supermodels thing is an entirely different question.

Answer 6

He may lust after the models, but what are the chances that they're going to lust after him? If he's unemployed, any job is a good job. Figure out which way you're going to make more money, if he is really going to make a lot of money being a driver(while taking rent into account) then let him do it. Good luck.

Answer 7

Let him take the job. At least he will be working and have some self-esteem. Men like to keep busy. As for the supermodels...lots of them are somewhat artificial. If you two are meant to be together, you will be. Don't try to hold him back, he will hold it against you. Let him go, if it doesn't work out, he wasnt worth being your boyfriend in the first place.

Answer 8

Hmmm. That's tough because I could see why it would bother you. But you do have to trust him. Try to look at like if a man is going to cheat, he would do so even if you were paraniod or not. A certain type will, and a certain type won't. Hopefully you're with someone faithful. If he was the type to cheat, he would do it regardless, at a regular job with a regular girl. So trust is the key word.
In any relationship you need to trust yourself as well. Trust that if god forbid your bf did do anything, you would survive.

Answer 9

The two of you should sit down and really look at how much he would make if he were to take the job and how much more would it cost you for rent and any other costs (including putting deposits down for rental properties and electricity and such) Look at all the angles of moving and make an informed decision together. If he really loves you you won't need to worry about the models and if you love him you'll give him the chance to support his case for moving.

Answer 10

If you have known him for 8 years I would think you either can trust him or not. Just think about the past and if you can trust him to tell you the truth and not be tempted to cheat. If he can make enough money to pay rent and have a nice income, then that makes sense to move back to your previous location.