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Question

i would to know what do you think about a wife who has a husband who doesn't care about her the reason is because his using drugs to much ,also he never pay the bills nothing only smooke and smooke and smooke . The wife decided to have an affair because she needeed someone to love her and help her . What happen is , she finally make up her mind and deciced to ask her husband to live the house , and they was argue and she told that she having an affair with a guy.The problem is deep inside she loves her husband but she can't leave with him because of is addiction,she would like him to change and she think that one day they might be together again......
Do you think she a bad person because she was having an affair...
Do you think ,she made a mistake by telling the truth to him
because she still love him

Answer 1

Was he doing this BEFORE you got married? If so, why did you marry him before he sought help? Did you think you could change him? People can't change people, only GOD can change people. (And even HE won't do it unless they WANT to change!)

The affair doesn't make you a bad person, but it was a very bad choice. (It didn't resolve the issue, did it?) HONESTY is the best policy - even if it hurts. You did right by telling him, because you can't resolve a problem if you don't know it exists.

Try to get your husband to go to counseling with you. Trust God to work it out. It will take time, but "with God, ALL things are possible."

Hugs & prayers

Answer 2

The only mistake I think she made is to be with someone that thinks the drugs are more important then she is. I had a similar problem about 7 years ago, my husband was so smoked out all the time that things were not getting taken care of, you need to give him an all tomatom, the drugs or our relationship. If he agrees to quit the drugs then you need to help him find a drug counsel. Not a drug rehab that only makes thing worse, the counselor will help with the addiction and also any marital problem you may be having due to his problem. If he really loves you he will at least try to get over the addiction. If all Else false then divorce him move out and find someone that thinks you are more impotent then anything in the world. He would be better off with out you if he wants to keep the drugs....
Hope you get what you are looking for in an answer....

Answer 3

I don't think you're a bad person. I think you were lonely, and wanted a "normal" relationship, with a normal husband that loved his wife, paid the bills, and came home to her after a day's work to spend time with HER. I don't think you should have had an affair, because an affair is NEVER the answer, but it happened, so no use dwelling on that. From a positive viewpoint, talk to your husband. Tell him you love him, but the drugs HAVE to go. If he is not willing to quit the drugs for you and your marriage,then the only solution I see, is to get a divorce from him, and find a man that will love you, be good to you, and NOT do drugs. Good Luck!! I don't think telling the truth is EVER a bad thing, or a mistake...that's what you do when you're in love!

Answer 4

Two wrongs don't make it right. Husband smokes drugs
and wife cheats. What the wife should have done was to
get the husband to get counseling and get help in his
drug habit. There is always seperation when one has
marital problems if direct intervention does not help. Then
there is divorce once seperated and it still does not work
out. Both parties have to work on the problem if the prob-
lem is to go away. Escape routes will never work because
the problem is still there. So if this couple want to stay
married then they both have to get involved in their prob-
lems and come up with solutions for them even if profess-
sional help is needed. That is the only way it could be re-
solved.

Answer 5

Yes, she is a bad person for having the affair. She should be fair to all involved and file for divorce before sleeping around. Telling the truth was not a mistake because now the husband can leave her and owe her nothing in the settlement.

She does not love him...she loves the version of him that she originally fell in love with, but doesn't exist anymore...she needs to move on.

Answer 6

Having an affair is not the mistake--the mistake is marrying a drug addict. Even if you love him, you HAVE to put yourself first and leave him. You have to understand that you didn't cause him to be that way, and you can't cure him either. His behavior has nothing to do with you, and he will ALWAYS put the drugs before you. You deserve better than that.

Answer 7

The only thing you was probably wrong about was having an affair. You should have put him out and then started seeing the new guy. Your hubby is probably going to get even worse since he's losing everything. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

She has made some bad choices but her biggest and most destructive mistake was to stay with him all this time.If she truly wanted to make things work she would have talked to him along time ago.She has let things go for so long now that the damage is done and it would be extremely hard to fix it.

Answer 9

Here's what I think:

I think the wife needed to put her foot down about her husband's behavior, and if he didn't fix his problems, divorce him.

It is never OK to have an affair. This makes her as bad as him.

Answer 10

The bible says for better or worse Through sickness and in health.So I think that she should have convinced him to get some help and that she should have never have cheated on him. And I think that she did the right thing by telling him of her affair.Maybe he will get the help that he needs.an that they can be a loving family again.