Give my husband a BJ every time he wants to even if I'm not in the mood for it? If I don't, he gets mad at me and calls me selfish and won't talk to me for days. (and he doesn't just ask once in a while he asks multiple times during the day.) If I do it for him, he waits about a half an hour and wants another one. Am I a bad wife for not enjoying giving him BJ's and not wanting to all of the time?
2007-02-07 07:22:16 · 35 answers · asked by Perplexed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Heck no, your not a bad wife....but maybe too good of a wife... obviously he's taking advantage of the pleasures you give him. Have you tried telling him how you feel... sounds like hes the selfish one. Its a chore, definetly something we dont really want to do. Maybe you could tell him to calm down with the demands and really listen to what your have to say ... good luck with everything !
2007-02-07 07:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
All I can say is that you are a good woman, my husband is lucky for getting it once a month. No you are not a bad wife, he is a selfish husband. Be glad when he gets mad that he doesn't talk to you for a couple of days, at least you don't have to worry about him asking for a BJ...lol....Try talking to your husband or start telling him to do stuff for you every time he ask for a BJ....
2007-02-07 07:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is the one who is selfish and he's addicted to the bj's and he sounds abusive. Maybe you have a sex freak on your hands and he needs counseling. If it was me I would let him give himself a bj and leave his behind alone, but if you don't want 2 do that ask him to go for counseling.
2007-02-07 07:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by sweet p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to see someone that's not normal for one..for two that is abuse in many ways..and for three get a back bone and tell him no... If he is going to get mad because you are not a bj machine to bad for him.. You should not be pushed into doing something you do not want and if he really loved you he would not be doing the things he is.. You should really think about calling a shelter and talking to them this is not normal..Are there other problems at home with control and abuse??
2007-02-07 07:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. This sounds like thats all he wants you for. Telling you that you are selfish and then won't talk to you for days is very childish and selfish. You married a selfish, bj crazed person.
2007-02-07 07:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you. Your husband is a selfish prick. How can you be with him? I don't even give bj's. I was with my ex for 5 years and I never gave him one. I dont' like doing it and he had no choice but to accept that, and he did. This guy is making you feel bad for this? Is he worth it? Doesn't sound like it.
2007-02-07 08:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! He's a pig.. has he even stopped to ask you what YOU wanted?! A real man puts his womans needs before his.. apparently he's obsessed with BJs and he needs to learn that NO means NO! Tell him straight up! Hes the selfish one!
2007-02-07 07:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by cachilcote 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage should be a two way street. Give and take. Just as you try to consider your husbands needs, he is supposed to consider yours. Sounds as though you could use some couples counseling so that you can establish some guidelines about how to best meet both of your needs and deal with disappointment/communication when one of you need to cope w/the reality that it is not supposed to be all about one person.
2007-02-07 07:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by pianoplayer663 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I would have to say that you are a pretty giving wife. I like to give my husband BJ's, but not all the dang time like yours wants. Scores to you....He is a luck man.
2007-02-07 07:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are serious you need to leave him and find someone that will do it for u u can do it every once in a while 1-5 x a month but he just married u cause u do what he wants
2007-02-07 07:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋