Im 17 and I had a baby a month 4 days after my birthday. I dont regret having her at all, but sometimes i get really frustrated cuz i have to spend all day at home taking care of her. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has the chance to go out everyday (to work, but at least is something), to play soccer with his friends on his days off, or simply going to visit his parents. Is it ok for me to go out? or should I wait for the baby to get a lil older?
2007-02-07 07:15:08 · 34 answers · asked by Bbita 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You do need some time away,24/7 is alot!I have a 9 month old and even if I just go out to walmart or to the mall or anything in the evenings when dad is home is wonderful!It is more than ok for you to get out.Have dad what her while you even go for a coffee with some friends.
2007-02-07 07:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have questions for you...
Do you mean go out without the baby (like a break for you)
Or do you mean is it ok for you to fo out with baby?
Either way, the answer is Yes you can go out...
Me and my baby were going out when he was a month old...we've really been on the go from day one (Day six actually) but you know what I mean.
I have left the baby with my mother a few times and with the daddy two times...and honestly I kept worrying about baby the whole time and I didn't have a good time anyway.
If you can get mom to watch the little one for a while so you clear your mind ...there's nothing wrong with that...but in my experience it has been a pleasure carting my little one around town. He's met all my friends, he has completely and thouroughly examined all the local shopping outlets, he's even been to several local restaurants and I think it has actually been really good for him. He's really inquisitive and interested in his surroundings all the time...he's not one of those kids that has never left the house so when they go somewhere new they cry...my little guy seems to have a good time when we're out and about...
So if I were you...I would schedule that AT LEAST once a week you have some alone time...whether it be daddy or your mom or aunt or somebody to give you a little break.
And then whenever you feel comfortable...go out and show off your baby as long as you dress him properly for the seasons and pack a well stocked diaper bag and take him on reasonable safe outings the two of you will explore the town together and have a great time!
Both these things will help your baby learn new things and they will both help you feel less trapped.
2007-02-07 07:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why people are being so judgemental here.
I'm 32, and I STILL feel the same way! Every mom needs some time away from the baby. When mine was 3 months old, it was like a major vacation if I could run to the grocery store and leave her with Daddy.
You definitely need to schedule some time for yourself. A few hours, once a week, to do what YOU want to do is not being selfish. Of course you need a sitter ... whether that's Dad, or a relative, or a trusted babysitter.
2007-02-07 07:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first baby when i was 17 to. Yes haveing a baby is a lot of work. But you need to get out so you dont get so frustrated. The baby wiil be ok for a litter bit. Yes it is hard to live you baby for a litter bit but it wii be ok. I have 3 kids and i go out some times. It dose not maen that i dont love my kids. i love my kids more than any think. its been home all day is frustrated i am home all day with my kids. i have a 7 yr old and 3 yr old and a 1 yr old. It is had to take care if them but i love doing it.
2007-02-07 07:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same feeling after my daughter was born, she was born a month and 3 days before my 18th birthday but yes you can go out and spend time with family and friends too. You can even see if your mom, aunt or someone else in the family can babysit your lil girl so you can spend some alone time with your boyfriend or just have time to pamper yourself and relax for a while. But like i said, yes you can go out and have a lil fun yourself instead of being cooped up in the house all day long, if you wanna take your daughter out, just make sure shes dressed warm untill spring and summer hit.
2007-02-07 07:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by tommi_ghurl_2006 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go out for a few hours,In order to be a good mom you have to have time to yourself doing the things you once did before having a child.If you get out and get some mommy time when you get back you will be stress free and ready to be a mom again.Staying home with a young child day in and day out tends to burn parents out and it's that way for us all.I had my first child at 17 teen so I know how much harder it is then when you are older.Being a parent is a fulltime job and we are human and need some time outside the house without our children.That doesn't make us bad parents.I would sit down with dad and let him know that your in this together and that you need to get out for a few hours, but you will give him a number to reach you at in case he needs any help or has something he may not be sure about.Please don't feel guilty or that your a bad mom for needing time.You would be a bad mom if you didn't take time out for you and lost your cool with the baby.(not saying you would) but some people do get that stressed.Good Luck!
2007-02-07 08:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by amber 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay there is no problem with going out, but are u planning on taking her with u? or leaving her with a babysitter or what? i dont think u should go out every night and all. but once a week or less would be fine, and if u take ur baby with you, just make sure u pick responsible places, the mall for example, but dont make those outings too long because ur baby should be first, not having fun. if ur going to go out and leave her with a babysitter, u should do this sparingly, u dont want ur child to grow up under some else's care so much, thats just not healthy. just be responsible, think about ur child first, and u can have a little fun sometimes (im 17 and my daughter is 3, and i go out once in a while (maybe once a week, maybe less just depends on how everything is)
2007-02-07 07:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lil mzz green eyez 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi yes i think that you should make some time for yourself to go out as if you become frustrated and sad your baby senses that, a happy mummy comes across to your baby making them happy too. I'm a mum of 2 at the age of 22. I am lucky to have my parents who are always happy to mind my children for me every now and then, not always though, as i say their my children, i chose to have them so i look after them but occasionally so that i can go out and spend some time with my partner or even just to pop to the shops without boring my 2 year old lol.
2007-02-07 23:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband went back to work after we went home from the hospital. So I can totally relate to you. I went out to visit friends and run some errands just to get out of the house once I was fully recovered from my C-section. There's no need to coop yourself at home all the time. If you want to go out, then go. Bring your baby if you want. Have a family member have their baby time (trust me, I know everybody has a family member...like a mom or grandmom..who wants their alone time with your baby). You are entitled to your alone time. Just don't go out too much and miss out on your baby's growing. She is at that phase where she is growing right before your eyes. She will do something different and unexpected at any minute.
2007-02-07 08:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a child before you are ready is truly a big damper on social plans. Tell your BF to buck up to the plate and that the both of you are to take care of this child at all times. Set up per month basis a Girls Night where he takes care of the bundle of joy and you go out with the girls. Then do the same for him...but he hangs out with the guys. Having a child is not a end all to your life, but you will need to realize that you don't get the choices you once had and that this baby is your first and foremost concern...not your social life. Good Luck
2007-02-07 07:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋