why isn't happiness everlasting?

Question

for example:relationships.why is it that things are ok for just a while and then they end up $#!++% again.and then it repeats.

Answer 1

such is life. the only thing we can be certain of in life is that things will continue to change. however...i also beleive that we choose how to accept situations. either see the good in things or the bad.

Answer 2

I've been with a guy for 14 years and we are happy most of the time but we have arguments too and fall outs u have to work hard to keep a relationship good and if it seems like everything turns sour after a while its either because your not right for each other or you are expecting it to be easy and your not trying hard enough,maybe u just have not met the right person yet because when u do u will bend over backwards to make them happy and they will do the same for u its all down to compromise and listening to what the other wants from a relationship and last but not least love.

Answer 3

Happiness is a choice. So is anger. I'm not saying that there are not times when you shouldn't be feeling these feelings. Life happens. However, I can choose to wake up each day happy or miserable. The same can be said for relationships. It is how you choose to feel about them. Remember, FEELINGS FOLLOW ACTIONS. This means, if you are feeling irritated in a relationship, then do an act of kindness and something loving for that person, and then the feelings of love will follow. Try it, it really works if you put in the effort.

Answer 4

Nothing in life is everlasting..life comes with no guarantees on anything...except death and taxes

We make our happiness when and where we can, for as long as we can. Some relationships are more blessed than others but even those long lasting ones have bumps in the road, they just learn how to pave over those bumps of life and keep going on

Answer 5

Happiness is everlasting. As you get older you remember the good things in life and forget the bad. To have happiness one must understand and beable to truly forgive. Unhappiness goes away with time if given the chance. It helps when a person knows God and has a relationship with his son Jesus.

Answer 6

I am developing a theory on that one LOL. We're dying and trying to be happy while we're doing it. We fall in love and for a while forget the dread we feel deep in our hearts, knowing that whatever love and happiness we're feeling is temporal and that everyone we love, including our precious selves isn't long for this world. We distract ourselves with making money, but this is only to deaden the sound of mourning all around us; we mourn every minute of every day but deny it. Love is always in us, but this doesn't make the outlook more positive. It would be easier to face our death without the love. To the mortal ones, love is a cruel taste of immortality, and eventually it is poison to our dying lips. There's no great comfort in knowing it - but happiness IS everlasting, whether we're here to experience it or not.

LOL sorry for being so morbid. I am really heart broken :-(

Answer 7

Who promised you a rose garden???

Everything ends. Americans have the right to "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness," but happiness *cannot be pursued.* It just happens, and then it stops happening.

What makes you think that happiness SHOULD be everlasting?

If your relationships are repeatedly crashing, perhaps it is something *you* are doing to sabotage them... I of course have no idea what, but you might do well to think about that.

Eternal happiness is our reward after death, not our right in this world.

Answer 8

If happiness were everlasting then no one would know how it feels to cry, to be upset, how it feels to feel. They would only know that one emotion. Also, as far as relationships, some people your meant to meet or be with just for a season(or should I say, a certain lenghth of time). Maybe you met them to help them through something or for you to actually learn something from them and then your season changes. Relationships themselves aren't everlasting, if it is to work, both parties must be willing. Willing to work at the relationship itself, willing to compromise, and willing to change.

Answer 9

Your question is the exact reason I set up my website. To help people get happy.

Its going to take more than one thing for you to be happy and my site will show you how.

As a rule, if it happens once, thats ok. If it happens twice, thats unlucky. If it happens more than twice it is going to happen again and again and again - cause its in the stars - meaning, your subconcious mind is attracting it without you even knowing. You need direction so you can find happiness (we all do). You need to know what to avoid and when, and what to go for and when.

Check out my site and you WILL find some answers
www.astrotimes.net.au
With a cosmic smile

akbaby

Answer 10

maybe you haven't found the right person for you. you have to work at a relationship it isn't always going to be all good all the time. when you find the person that makes you whole, you will find that even when things aren't great you know it would be a lot worse if you didn't have that person by your side.
life changes us all. we can't help that, but you have to accept experiences (good or bad) make us who we are.

Answer 11

I think it's because as human beings we want to go after new things that excite us or get our attention.. unless you are uber attached in a relationship things can happen.. if you or your other are drifting apart then that is a sign that you or the other do not know what you want out of a relationship.. it sounds twisted but honestly... we tend to go towards things we want...