I have a wide variaty of friends from "punk" to "ghetto" to"nerd". Letely I've been thinking about what makes people choose who to make friends with and who they don't. What do you think, why have you chosen your circle of friends? Do all of your friends act and dress like you do? Are the people that are more like you better friends with you then people who are less like you?
2007-02-07 06:48:40 · 12 answers · asked by Josh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have a wide variaty of friends from "punk" to "ghetto" to "nerd". Lately I've been thinking about what makes people choose who to make friends with and who not to befriend. What do you think, why have you chosen your circle of friends? Do all of your friends act and dress like you do? Are the people that are more like you better friends with you then the people who are less like you? (I may quote you for academic purposes, however you will remain annonymous unless otherwise requested)
2007-02-07 06:58:33 · update #1
I've never thought about how I choose my friends. I realize that there are certain people I'm friends with that I would almost never associate myself with, but somehow I have. I think it's a subconcious need to talk to intelligent people, or people that seem to have some sort of drive. I dislike many, many people, but I seem to have several friends, and a few good, close friends. I choose who I'm close with based on things in common, their ability to hold conversations, and how they make me feel overall. If someone makes me feel stupid, you bet I'm not going to get close to them.
I'm friends will all sorts of people, and I'm friendly with most people, but it doesn't mean I like them or that I'm friends with them. I extend my friendliness to most people, but choose to be friends with only certain people, but I can't really pinpoint why I chose those people to befriend.
None of my friends dress, act, or look the same. Everyone is diverse. The people I'm closest with for the majority don't look like me or really act like me, but we share similar view points.
2007-02-07 07:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first started high school I was friends with the people that I already knew from my old school. But I enjoy being friends with everybody and when I decided to be friends with someone I don't look at what type of classification they go under or the type of clothes they dress. I looked closer to their personality. Normally when I first meet people I get a certain vibe from them that either lets me know if I should keep spending time to get to know them or if their not worth my time. Most of my friends don't really dress alike I consider my style of choice of clothing to be different then the ones that they were. However people who have the same attitude about life and people like I do normally have more in common then the ones that have different perspective of things never the less people the people I choose to be friends with have certain connections with me as well that's why we ended up being friends in the first place.
2007-02-08 06:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by trcmae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that people choose the people they are friends with by trying to relate people to them selves or past expperiences. In my experiences people often share at least one thing in commen with a friend (music taste, hobbies, fav movies.... etc.). This does not mean that you need to dress a like, act alike, or even talk the same way... simply be able to interact and share similar thoughts and ideas.
Of course you will always find the ocasional exception to the rule where "opposites atract".
In my personal experience my closest friends are all extremely diffrent in looks, but all seem to share something in common, music. Almost all of my friends have a large intrest in music, no matter what the type. Anouther thing they seem to hold in commen is the ability to enjoy going out and just do anything to have a good time.
2007-02-08 06:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by David Burghgraef 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends are the people that have been there for me through everything and I know I can count on them. We all dress differently and have different personalities but we get along very well. I don't know how to say this without confusing you: we're all very different people, but were also very similar. Get it? It doesn't matter if I'm different or similar than someone I might be friends with, it just matters how comfortable I am around them and vice versa.
2007-02-08 07:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by jessexy18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn`t really make a decision of the friends I`m with or hang out with. I didn`t choose to be friends with them because they are a certain way or because they have a certain style. It`s the fact that I can be myself around them and be comfortable to speak my mind and know that I can trust them. My friends and I have different tastes and a variety of styles, so we`re definetely not friends beacuse we dress alike or label ourselves something.
I dont think that the clothes or the style really affect my friendship with others. I have alot of friends that dress so much different than me and that doesn`t really impact our friendship so I guess thats a no on me being better friends with someone because they`re more like me.
2007-02-07 07:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by Dafne B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends are people I see often, whether in school or other places. The people I'm closest to I see most often. Also, I find that I have at least a few things in common with all my friends, similar interests are a big part of friendships.
2007-02-07 06:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends are usually people that are both similar and different from me. A lot of my really good friends I have a lot in common in with. Starting up a friendship with them was just easier and was easier to just talk to them. Most people look for someone who is like them. Someone that will accept them for how they are. You usually more likely to find someone who will accept you if your our like them.
Though I do make friends with people who are very different from me. I made friends with these people because they were funny, smart, kind, and a little goofy. I make friends with the people I trust, that make happy, and the people who accept me for who I am.
2007-02-07 07:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by black_galen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of my friends dress the way i do, but i guess we act alike. I get along more with the people i have more stuff in common with.
2007-02-07 07:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by alex t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of my friends are really like me at all. And i do ask myself...why are these people my friends? I guess it just depends on where you see people, who they are friends with and sometimes you are friends with people they are friends with even if they are not like you. But that is a really good question. I can't even answer it. :(
2007-02-07 06:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by puffalump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to choose my friends by there heart... I gravitate to people in general (regardless of the way one acts, dresses or looks) by how true and genuine there heart is....
2007-02-07 06:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋