I'm a victim of incest, abuse, and a very unhappy, confused childhood. I want opinions?

Question

When I was 5 years old my Dad started sexually molesting me. When I was 11 years old my Mom caught him, yelled at him, asked me if it happened before, and said to tell her if it happened again. It was never mentioned again. And yes, it continued.

My brother who is 7 years older than me forcefully raped me several times when he was in his teens. He physically abused me, and severely mentally abused me continually telling me how stupid, ugly, and worthless I was among other things.

My brother who is 17 years older than me sexually molested me after he was married with children. I was 11.

My Dad was confronted many years ago and the family has picked up and gone on with healed relationships. (He molested many family members)

My question, am I abliged to have a decent relationship with my siblings? My parents are dead. I'm 52. There are 8 siblings. I'm having a hard time with my feelings toward some of them, and I really don't want to have any relationship w/them. Am I wrong?

Answer 1

You have EVERY right to feel the way you do. Only associate with the siblings you care to. You have been through enough. Take care.