I recently broke up with my boyfirned of 4 years. I realize where my mistake was with him in the relatinship which is why i ended it. I am now 5 1/2 months pregnant with his child (a boy) and he wants to be in his life. I honestly dont want someone like that to have any influence on my son's life. He's a compulsive liar, a drug dealer, he doesnt even care if he goes to jail or not. He talks to me like s*&t. We cant even be around each other without an arguement because he lies so much But he constantly tells me that he going to take care of his child. I never wanted to be the type of mother to keep a father from his child but i fell like this is the best move for my son's sake. Help!!
2007-02-07 06:13:34 · 8 answers · asked by tiffany j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well if you can tryed to talk to him and see what is feeling about his child. First of all see if he's going to help you, and if you know that he is then give him an try but just because your having his child does not mean that you to be with him. Let this be a lesson that you have learn. If your baby father not going to be there or you thank that he's going to be in and out of your son's life then but him on child support. Now you know that your in this bye yourself so just wait on the lord to bless you with your future husband. My sure that you pray about the men that you wait in your life. If you wait good things come when you wait on the lord. I'm not here to judge just to give you good advise to you.
2007-02-07 07:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Dra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you think of him, he legally has rights and if he persues them in court, he will most likely be able to get the child a minimum of every other weekend..unless of course he goes to jail. Your other option is, if you are worried about the serious impact a drug dealer will have on your child...leave the area before you have the child.
2007-02-07 06:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should of thought of that before you slept with a person like that and got knocked up, because now your selfishness, and lack of responsibility will affect your child for his entire life... or what? didn't care while you were getting your rocks off? Grow up! You have to answer for your own actions, and now is the time to answer for them. Think life is just one big blast so long as you feel good and do what you want, nothing else mattered? It matters now doesn't it?
2007-02-07 06:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Fa!thfuIIy H!s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont let him be part of you son's life cause he is bad example and he wont do any good for his child if he is into drugs and also what good is going to be in your child life when he is born and then he is older then his dad goes to jail.What are you going to tell your son.Try your best to keep him away from him.It is better.
2007-02-07 06:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dulce O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll probably need to go to court and establish paternity, and then make sure you'll be getting child support from him- until he's paying his share, he shouldn't have any parental rights. I wouldn't even sign his name to the hospital certificate unless he steps up with some cash. After that's all settled, you can arrange for 'supervised' visits if you think he's a risk. But you can't deny him fatherhood if he's supporting the child.
2007-02-07 06:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too late, he has rights like anyone else. If he wants something to do with his son, he has that legal right to. Or else absolve him of any parental responsibility and get no child support. Better for you to be civil about it. Even liars and junkies have hearts.
2007-02-07 06:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by al bundy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him be in his son's life. It's horrible to say but I think you and your baby are much better off without any of that in your lives.
2007-02-07 06:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by blondefortunecookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get an E P O on this man, if you feel threatend by him. there are laws to help protect you and your unborn child.
2007-02-07 06:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by sadie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋