Hi; my ex and I broke up over a year ago; then we talk to each other but I have not gotten completely over him and he wants nothing with me but in all this time has been single, we stop talking to the other because he does or says things he should not if he wants nothing again with me only "friendship".
He lately treats me like we never dated and always, always no matter what he does hurtful the next day he talks to me like nothing, treats me like nothing.
I have told him I thought I was more important, had been special but no answer at all.
He treats me I think like those girls you can go out and do something for it to mean nothing.
He made fun of things he did and he should have either apologize or tell me he will not do that at my home; I told him go play games somewhere else.
All this and he still after several days; has called but I did not answer; I thought is was him. And now send mail asking if is still ok to call.
Why they do that?
Don't they hurt?
?...
2007-02-07 06:11:13 · 9 answers · asked by Pandora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Listen...what you need to do is let go. I know its hard, and trust me, it wont be easy. But you need to let go, because this boy is playing with your head and your heart. He just wants someone he feels he can control, but at the same time, he doesnt want to be controlled. What hes doing right now is using you. He wants someone to fall back on when things get rough, and because he knows you still care, he's using you for someone to talk to when he gets bored or whatever. It's been a year. It's time to let this go and move on. You WILL find someone who wont use you and will care about you, and will love you for who you are, not what they can get from you.
Take some time for yourself. If youre religious, then pray about it. Do something for yourself so you can prove to yourself that you dont need a guy. Yeah, you dont want to be alone, but you dont need a guy to complete you. Make yourself happy. Love yourself before you try to love someone else.
Once you do all that, then try to find someone else. You'll be ready for another relationship after you cleanse yourself of this man who hurts you so much. Break all ties, end all phone calls. Erase his number, throw away his pictures, ignore his letters. Be yourself, and be strong. You dont need this pain he's causing you.
Stand up for yourself; protect your heart. Learn to love again. It'll all come within time, i promise.
good luck!
2007-02-07 06:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this but some people are just "Players". They want you when they want you and treat you like S*** the rest of the time. Is this someone you really want as a Friend? It would be best for you to just ignore the Jerk like you are doing and move on. Chalk this relationship up to a lesson well learned. It will make you stronger in the long run. You will learn how to spot a Player and Kick Em to the Curb right away...Good Luck
2007-02-07 06:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's doing it because he can. I don't mean to be off tone with you but he wouldn't do it if you didn't allow it. I know how hard it can be to still have strong feelings for an ex..but I pose a simple question to you..do you really love him? (him = the person he is to you now) or do you love what you THOUGHT he was?
Stick to your guns and move on without him. Teach him that it's not okay to treat you that way..and find out why you allow yourself to be treated that way so that you can stop the cycle.
Hang tough
2007-02-07 06:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by missourishol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU hafta be kidding, right? Why on earth are you still hung up on this flat tire? What is wrong with you, have you no self esteem or self worth? He obviously wants little if anything to do with you and plays you as long as you let him. Best you move on and forget him...find someone else to be with...please.
2007-02-07 06:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one You did answer your own question just that we all do this,
and don`t realise it,I do it all the time, your first sentenceI would just walk away from that, Why would you waist your time and energy on some one like that?I ask cause i have done it.Do you realise what your doing to yourself? so, stop it!
2007-02-07 06:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by katana b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave this guy alone, you dont need to be treated like this...move on and youll find someone better.
2007-02-07 06:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't be his friend tell him to leave you alone and just try to date other people that worked for me...
2007-02-07 06:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by cyndi m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get on with your life. You DESERVE better.
2007-02-07 06:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this, if he treats you so badly why are you talking to him.
2007-02-07 06:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by rain9439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋