My wife is currently on a Carribbean vacation (cruise) with her mom. I sent her on this as a token of wanting to help her in the marriage.
She has been crying to me each night since the weather is terrible with rain and clouds...she is NOT having a good time!!!
She threatened to come home, but I stopped her...
Now, she demands another vacation when she gets home so she can unwind and relax from this stressful time...
She also demands that I go with her, but there is no way to get out of work for me...
How do I appease this situation? I don't like it when she is angry with me!!!!
2007-02-07 06:09:24 · 17 answers · asked by Ted Arcidi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound like a fairly gracious husband, but of course we are only getting one side. LOL!
There is a fine line between being a male chauvinist jerk and standing up and being a man like everyone here says, and being a loving and giving mate or being an enabler and a doormat.
If she wanted the cruise, and saw it as a gift to help the marriage herself, then, yeah, she is pushing you to see where your boundaries are and if you will stand up to her and be the man she needs, or will let her take and take until she resents you for having not respect for yourself.
If she asked for you to take her on a vacation, and you sent her on one with her mother, then you may need to rethink your priorities.
But if she wanted to spend time with her mother, and you supported that, then...... well you need to draw some boundaries for her.
Anger needs to be addressed, not appeased.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 08:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lovejunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I hate to tell you the harsh way but you have a spoiled princess on your hands and if you give into this demand you will be giving in for the rest of your life. Nip it in the bud now or you will wind up resenting her. You can do nothing about lousy weather and she is just being selfish demanding you take off of work and take her on vacation. It is not worth losing your job over. Lay down the law and she will stop pouting and move on and become a better wife for it.
2007-02-07 06:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her to hold her horses until you can get the time off to take a vacation with her. Sheesh, this woman sounds immature (and did I mention selfish.)
Many women would love to have a hard working man who is willing to send her on vacation. Some women would love to be in her shoes. Should you be looking for a new dance partner, a more mature, understanding person who appreciates all that you bring to the table. What does she do besides whine?
You have spoiled her during the courtship and marriage and created a problem child.
Woman, grow up already!
2007-02-07 06:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your wife wanted a vacation but not with her mother. She wanted you to vacation with her. Why can't you take a trip with her? Are you so self indulged with work that it comes before the family? Sometimes in life you have to stop and look at your life and decide what is more important. I don't know your full situation or anything so it's hard for me to answer you fully. I'm not saying quit your job or get fired, but most employers do allow a vacation from time to time. You should try as hard as you can to get some time off from work and plan a trip with your wife.
2007-02-07 06:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow..demanding woman. First of all you can't control the weather..she should be grateful that you even sent her there. Secondly you act as if you don't have a choice in the matter about the second vacation..Simply tell her that's not possible due to your job..you know the one that paid for her vacation?
Tell her to get a massage and enjoy her trip anyway she can.
Best of luck to you.
2007-02-07 06:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by missourishol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put some sand in the living room and tell her you're taking her to the beach. Get a spray bottle to simulate the ocean breeze. Buy some seagulls and let them nest in the dining room.
Come on, stand up for yourself and be a man. Your wife should not be 'demanding' anything from you. Stop being afraid of her. If she's angry with you, that's her problem. If she can't get over it, show her the highway.
2007-02-07 06:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My goodness you do have a spoiled wife! I cannot believe that she is on a cruise this very moment and she is whining about it, and is now crying about another one when she gets back, get some back bone mister! Tell her how lucky she is that you let her go, and that she had better enjoy herself, because it will be a long time from now that you will be able to take her anywhere!
2007-02-07 06:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 20:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by barnas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Grow a backbone man. I'm sorry to be harsh, but I would never *demand* anything from my husband. A good marriage is 50/50. Sounds like she's dipping into your 50.
2007-02-07 06:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by retropink 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is a spoiled brat and you have to stop catering to her demands. She is very childish and needs to grow up. I suggest that you get marriage counseling. Otherwise this marriage is doomed.
2007-02-07 06:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋