Don't you hate it when you think your relationship is going down the tubes?

Question

after 10 years and a divorce and a reconciliation, it may be over, but one last ditch effort of counseling may save it who knows

Answer 1

I would STRONGLY recommend you buy a copy of Nicholas Spark's "The Wedding". Read it and learn something truly valuable.

It isn't too late to turn it around, but the closer you are to the edge the more patient you'll have to be in getting results.

There is a life lesson in that book on relationships (especially the traps many men tend to fall into) that makes me wish every person in America could read it...women as well as men!

Wishing you all the best -

Answer 2

Best wishes in your last ditch effort to save your marriage.
Sometimes counseling can be quite helpful, who knows ... esp if it is just a case of two people who are drifting apart.

"... Half of all marriages that end do so in the first seven years, according to John Gottman, a University of Washington professor of psychology who has done extensive research on why marriages succeed and fail.
(The second critical time for divorce is in mid-life, when couples often have young teenage children.)
Yet remarkably, the average couple waits six years before seeking help for marital problems."

"If it had been mandatory to go through counseling before divorce. . .I don’t think we would have gotten divorced,” said Sherry Arp, who remarried husband Terrance in June, nearly 20 years after their divorce. “It wasn’t where either of us were cheating on each other or anything. We just drifted apart."

Answer 3

All of this truly comes down to your own feelings. Do what you feel is right for you, and if your spouse's dreams coincide with your own, you'll find a way to work things out. Marriage takes more than love. I'm going through a really hard time with my spouse as well, and things are looking pretty bleak, but I'm pushing on. And don't forget that you can only bend so far before you break.

Answer 4

Never give up - fight like crazy to make it work! Remember, you loved him enough to stand before God and promise 'For better for worse, in sickness and health, until death do us part', right? Don't be a liar! Look for a church in your area that has a marriage support group and get involved. The family that prays together, stays together!

I wish you well - God bless!

Answer 5

When the bad outweighs the good, it's time to move on and I am speaking from experience. Beating a dead horse is not gonna make it get up and run. But if you and your spouse aren't ready to throw in the towel, then give it another try.

Answer 6

I hope so for your sakes..but didn't work for me. Once the damage is there is very hard to recuperate. I tried the "last ditch effort" and it backfired. But who am i to say. I am leaving this one. Life goes on.

Answer 7

I hate that relationships are soooo much work. I understand that two people can't get along all the time, but it shouldn't be so damn hard to stay together!! I do know that I am in the wrong business - I should've been a counselor!!!

Why can't we all just get along??????

Answer 8

Yes i do i put my all in my relationship for 12 years then he left me for his ex girlfriend. I stood by him when he was ill etc. but as soon as I got sick he left me.Sometimes couseling can be a big help,but you both have to go.Mine woudnt even give it another try all he wanted was her. So good luck.whatever you decide it takes 2.

Answer 9

Life changes...you can try as much as you like but life has a way of taking you where you need to be.

It depends on the people involved.
Sometimes you just have to hug each other and wish each other well.

Answer 10

go with your intermost feelings it just may save the relationship!