I like things such as art, reading, writing, the theatre, ideas. When I was a kid I got teased and ignored for liking this stuff. Now that I'm older, people gather around me--only I've just realized that they're just interested in me because of the stuff I say and do and the fact that I can entertain them, not because of who I am myself. They'll talk about the stuff I like, and I don't realize what they're really interested in until I run into some problems in my life and they just disappear.
Maybe I come across as pretentious (but I'm not--I really do like my interests for their own value). I definitely don't want to deny or play down my tastes and what I like, but I also want friends who actually care about ME. Any tips for discriminating between false friends and real friends? Or maybe how I should behave so I don't come across as pretentious--which might be why I'm always attracting the wrong sorts of people--but genuine? Thanks!
2007-02-07 05:48:50 · 9 answers · asked by C C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should always be genuine. Don't pretend to be someone you're not just to get friends. Quality friends will appreciate just how you are. But, instead of talking about all that you know, try asking them questions. Get involved in what they are interested in. It just takes a couple of questions. And, if friends don't appreciate you for you except if you downplay who you are, then you are wasting your time being friends with them.
2007-02-07 05:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could have written this question. Almost all friendships are plastic and fair weathered now a days. All I can say is be who you are and be faithful to what you believe and enjoy. If you find one or two friends who will stand with you you have done well for yourself. Changing who you are to please others is never ever a good idea. If you are coming off with a pretentious attitude you do need to work on that and that is a change for you not others that is being honest you and your needs. Who that is is something you will have to decide. Treat everyone with respect, consideration, and compassion this will go a long way to building friendships but it must be real and honest.
Good luck
2007-02-07 05:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by cnc_13023 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your interest are not pretentious, but you will always have what I
call clusters of cling on's, So therefore learn to discern by being in tune with your understanding of what it is you need from your friendships, and know that you cannot call everyone friend. however the big issue is the difference between friend and associate or acquaintance. Some times you will just have to categorize who is who to you... True friendships have a life time of value I hope that you find that true genuine friend, for I truly I do miss mine. She passed away she was far to young to die.
2007-02-07 06:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like i said in other answers, we dont make friends, we buidup friends. Buildup a friend need some trust, love, good ears, and understanding. Its doesnt need same interest or same hobby. Sometimes we still can be good friends and understand each other even we dnt have anything in common. its cal understanding each other. The friendship have to buildup with all of these thing. Maybe you yrself, need to change yr attitude towards yr friends, then some wanna stay with you, for the true you.
2007-02-07 05:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For decide on of a better effective note? Pretentious. for my area, i imagine he's someone with out integrity, values or moral compass. not a guy i imagine should be the chief of the loose international.
2016-12-03 20:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This "Question" sounds like a sales presentation to make friends. Read your opening line! (I am certain you read it many times before posting it) One can not "practice" being genuine. Lighten up and just be yourself. Who cares what others will think.
2007-02-07 05:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Krystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a popularity contest, or maybe settle down. Do whatever your heart desires.
2007-02-07 05:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by Garret Tripp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very easy to maintain yourself...but it so many got damn corny people thats fraud, you will never win....I am still trying to do this
2007-02-07 05:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by Simple1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just be you
2007-02-07 05:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by PUTTIN' TANG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋