2007-02-07 05:35:05 · 22 answers · asked by ell_bell2006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
my sis in law and her girlf found a guy that donated to them for free. They checked all his medical stuff not sure how I would have to ask her. But she was due last week and the same guy donated to another gay couple and they have their baby already.
As I say I dont know all the details but if u want me to find out or see if she will contact u about it let me know.
2007-02-08 07:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by charlywarlykins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. If you don't have money for the treatment how will you support a baby? Secondly, your choices are obvious. Find a sperm donor, adopt or save up. It only costs around £2000 for donor insemination at clinic - which is less than a second hand car.
I would like to ask those people who oppose gay parenting, what the difference is between gay parents and heterosexual ones? Apart from what happens in the bedroom, which children of gay or straight couples should not be exposed to, there are no differences. All parents work hard to protect, provide and nourish their children's lives.
If their concern is the lack of a female or male parent to balance the family structure, then let me set a challenge: write a list of all the traits and behaviours associated with being a woman and being a man. Then see if you can find even one person who conforms 100% to either list. They don't exist. Instead you will find that the best parents have a good mix and range of traits that compliment each other's strengths and weaknesses and therefore set a good example to their children.
It's time that we all questioned our assumptions about our differences, because it’s the people that are judgemental of alternative families that are causing the harm they are supposedly trying to prevent. Aswell as setting an example to their own children that it's OK to bully other people that are different to you.
2007-02-07 10:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can do in vitro from a sperm bank. Or you could try adoption. There are a lot of people saying you shouldn't have kids because you are lesbian, but let me tell you that there are a whole lot of heterosexuals that shouldn't have kids. If all the heterosexuals who had kids loved them and took care of them, then there wouldn't be so many kids in foster care. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with your parenting skills or ability to love and raise a child.
2007-02-07 06:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by redrum42482 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you can't fund the operation how are you gonna support a child?? And also personally i think it is unfare to bring a child into a lesbian relationship as no matter how much you comforf and support he/she they will never have a normal life because the community will just not accept it, no matter what they say to your face they will always be thinking of the child ina different way, belive me i know from experience x
2007-02-07 07:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by xhelenx 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you want a baby so much I would suggest you take a look at the adoption figures and fostering figures and see If you would be suited for either or both. You can give as much love to these children and rewards are ongoing.
2007-02-07 05:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Find a guy that is willing to get one of you pregnant. Make sure that you are a committed loving couple and this is not just a whim. Having a child is serious business and this is the problem I have with gays and lesbians having kids, sometimes I don't think that they are not in it for the long haul. If you are in a long term committed relationship it is ok. But the child will also have to live their life explaining your homosexuality and that is another whole issue to consider.
2007-02-07 05:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
adopt - what is the point of spending lots of money and time bringing a baby into the world when there are thousands already here that want loving families and homes?
2007-02-07 05:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by FreakGirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a great idea for you...have sex till you get pregnant from your lover...if it never happens, well, then it is the way god intended..and yes, i am sarcastic about this, cause gay couples should not be having kids. if you have a problem with that, and say "oh, but we have so much love to give," then adopt a kid who needs that love, in otherwords have one less kid out there in the orphanige system. i guess a kid like that has already had it worse than lesbian parents.
2007-02-07 05:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
if you want a child then your going to need to look into private treatment. counselling may also be a good idea before you make any definate decisions as you need to take into account the effect this may have on any child that you have.
2007-02-07 05:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you considered adoption? Even if you think that it is not the option you will eventually go for it's worth investigating.
2007-02-07 05:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by 'H' 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋