I know this is stupid but my uncle & aunt are thinking of filling for divorce. My thing is I feel that I am partially to blame. I get along with both of them very well & they both have told me things. I have no idea what to do or anything. I feel as if I am to blame for this divorce. I do not want to be caught in the middle of things. I love them both as uncle & aunt & there kids are amazing. Any help guys???
2007-02-07 05:32:54 · 8 answers · asked by MEHNAZ B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not you, its them. Once you realize this, you will feel better about the whole situation. Think of it this way, if they were not your aunt and uncle, you would not know them and they would still be getting a divorce. So, how do you feel about all the people out there in the world, that you do not know, that are getting a divorce?
Also, do not take sides, just support both of them as you normally do. Tell them both you want to remain as close as you were to them, and to continue this closeness as long as you live.
Hope this helps in this sucky situation you are in.
2007-02-07 05:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by brian c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you are young so I will try to explain this, but when you get married you will understand, Marriage is about trust and love, if one or the other isnt there, then a spouse will stray,, if your uncle never told her how beautiful she was or how much he loved or held her and kissed her, stuff like you will feel if you have a boyfriend in high school, Us Old farts want the same thing,,, so when we dont get that at home, married or not, we tend to find someone who is interested in us,, ,, tell your mother people are human, that you dont know the whole story, and there are always two sides to a story, maybe your uncle beat the crap out of her ,, we dont know,, maybe he played mental games with her, called her fat, stupid etc... you dont know you dont live there, tell your mother to grow up, that you love you aunt and want to see her ( My aunt and uncle divorced when I was 15, she is still me aunt even though I am 47 yo,, and always will be I grew up with her ) if your mother doesnt see it your way,, call your aunt on the sly,, and when you are 18, you can do what you wanna
2016-03-29 09:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't continue to counsel either of them in their marriage. Ask them not to tell you anything anymore as you don't want to get in the middle or be at fault for bad advice. Let them know that you love both of them and wish that they would stay together, but it's ultimately their own decision.
2007-02-07 05:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Humble Proclaimer♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't blame yourself. that will make things worse. I am sure it is not your fault. it is not like you did anytghing to make them fight.
2007-02-07 05:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe they don't love each other or don't get along that has nothing to do with you
2007-02-11 03:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's none of your business... stay out of it...
2007-02-07 05:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, trust me...it's not you
2007-02-07 05:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not your fault...
2007-02-07 05:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋