I recently met this guy. We have been dating for about 2 months. I really like him but he's been keeping the fact that he is still married a secret from me. He is in the middle of getting a divorce but I still feel uncomfortable dating or seeing him until his divorce is final. The bad thing I ended up knowing his wife I had went to school with her. She knows he is seeing someone but doesnt know that it's me. They do have kids. So I think the best thing for me to do is walk away right. I mean he lied to me. Or at least till his divorce is finalized. What should I do? I care about him and no we havent had sex thak god.
2007-02-07 05:28:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't understand why he is keeping his divorce from you unless he is so use to lying and betraying people that it is now just a part of him...I'd walk away from this relationship fast.
He may just want to get out of a bad marriage and move on, have you mentioned him being married or talked about marriage in general to him? 2 months in a relationship, one would think plenty of time to fess up to getting a divorce, unless your relationship is more friends than lovers to him, in which case I could understand him not mentioning it to you, but still I talk to my friends about my personal problems as well as my good fortunes.
As for you knowing his soon-to-be-Ex, if you didn't break their relationship up then don't worry about her...after all...one man's trash is another man's treasure
2007-02-07 05:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has the divorce been going on? I was seperated almost a year before I decided to start dating again, the divorce wasn't final but in process. I was a little hesitant myself to reveal that I wasn't fully divorced either, cuz didn't know what reaction I'd get from the woman I was dating, but I did tell her. She had a bigger issue that I did have children. Although he should have told you, I think he likes you enough and didn't want to scare you away with that.
2007-02-07 05:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by jude 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is still married untill his divorce becomes final dear walk away from him and move on . You know that if you dont you might get a label of being a homewrecker once people find out . and as far as you knowing his wife that must be a tough one for you . I would most definately walk away from this man and find one that is not going through a messy divorce . good luck .
2007-02-07 05:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait until his divorce is finalized,aint be a rebound girl while his in the middle of getting a divorce . If the vibes are still there after the divorce is finalized, than continue.
Good Luck
2007-02-07 05:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by MEHNAZ B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until AFTER he's divorced, and then if you want a relationship with him, do it then. He probably didn't tell you he was married because he likes you and doesn't want to lose you by saying the "D" word. You knew his wife in high school, so what. Just wait until the divorce is over.
2007-02-07 05:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he really is in the middle of a divorce, then the relationship with his wife is over. But if you are having moral issues about it, do what feels right. Has he really filed already, or is he one of those, "I promise I'm divorcing her, I just have to wait until..."?
2007-02-07 05:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by me! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's drama waiting to happen. If you were friends with this girl in school, for that friendship you should walk away. He probably is looking for a rebound anyways. Why would he want to go into another serious relationship right after a divorce?
2007-02-07 05:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by Hotcakes 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are right do not see him anymore until the divorce is done and over with. If i were you i would dump him for lying and i would move on with my life. He is not worth the pain. You will be much better off without him in your life.
2007-02-07 05:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when he gets his baggage sorted out to call ya. But dont bother until then. When he gets back in touch, if he does, then discuss the fact that he lied to you.
See if there is anything there.
But yea, get rid of him now. You dont need to be involved in his situation. He should have never lied either. I am sure he has his reasons, but it doesnt make it right.
Good luck
2007-02-07 05:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay away from this one until the divorce in final. Until then, there's always the chance he'll go back to his wife.
2007-02-07 05:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋