He is 22 and I am 21. We've been seeing each other about 3 months and last night we had a deep conversation about marriage. we always talk about it and what we think about it. He asked me that if he went into the military, what would I do, and I told him i'd ask him to marry me or break up with me. he later told me that made him think. Then last night he was saying how he wishes he was still young and innocent at 18 without worries and he feels that now his next step is to have children. I told him not many men his age think that way at all, and he said he is different.
He jokes about how he doesn't want me to get pregnant or he'll go broke. Last night i told him jokingly i want to have babies with him and he said what do you want them to look like.
and he also doesn't want me to take birth control, just condoms
Does he want to marry me if he's talking about this with me?
-confused
2007-02-07 04:55:42 · 13 answers · asked by coochie1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he's trying to get you pregnant to lock you up before he joins the military and gets sent overseas...that way you'll "have" to be there for him when/if he makes it home.
Only three months into this??? I would get out and get away from him fast...this is just weird. No sane person talks about kids and a future like that after dating for only three months and as young as you are.
2007-02-07 05:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't read too much into it... And certainly take birth control of you feel more comfortable with it. It is not his decision, it's yours - until you two are married. He sounds like an "easy come easy go" type of guy to me; he gets really "into" some idea, and toys around with it for a while, kind of "tries it on"; but then he moves on to something else. At 22, his "next step" is not having kids... And I'm sure deep down he knows that. He may be infatuated with you at the moment, but it may or may not turn into something more serious. Be careful.
A mature person who is ready for kids will not be talking about them 3 months into the relationship... It would be too serious of an issue to be toying around with.
2007-02-07 05:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your guy wants all of the above. He's pretty young so I would just own up his talk to just that talk. Guys at the age are growing up and yet still very immature, they are stuck between teen and man. The two of you are a little too young to be thinking about marriage and babies, give it time, its only been 3 months, alot can happen. Not to mention you need to time to grow up and grow in your relationship.
Good luck.
2007-02-07 05:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No- he doesn't want to marry you- if he did he would ask- don't have children outside of marriage. Children need a sturdy foundation and security.
Besides you have only been seeing eachother for 3 months!! Your expectations are a little unrealistic and you need to CALM DOWN.
You should not have sex with him either- it's only been 3 months- and after all, why buy the cow when the milk is for free- this is a very true saying- don't be naive.
2007-02-07 05:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Humble Proclaimer♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My fiance and I have been together only a year. While we know for a fact that we want to marry each other, he is more afraid of getting married than having kids. He does not want me to take the pill anymore. He really wants kids. If you're together only three months, then you should really think if this is love or lust. Guys are funny, committment makes them act funny. Just ask him straight out, what does he want from you.
2007-02-07 05:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woooooooooo this is way too fast and early for him to be talking about this.... You dont even know him that well yet. Cool your heels a little bit. Do not have sex with him if he is in a hurry to have kids. Do not get married for at least a year yet and you really should wait till you are married to have kids. Why is he in such a hurry? He needs to cool off just a bit here. You take birth control if need be and dont let him tell you otherwise.
2007-02-07 05:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 months into the relationship and already talk like this. Slow down a little. marriage and children are not something to be rushed into. Give your selves more time to really get to know each other. Believe me. I waited four years to marry my husband and I learn new things about him all the time. Marriage and children is a lifetime commitment. slow down and really get to know each other. you might think you know him now but believe me you dont.
2007-02-07 05:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants to have kids if he is telling you not to use birth control..i would make sure you both are ready for the responsibility and are financially stable..having kids is not a decision to take lightly..and get married first..Geez whats the furry hurry??
2007-02-07 05:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
he might want to marry you then again he might leave you when your pregnant you never know what a man will do till you find out the hard way he might stick with you if he loves you
2007-02-11 03:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
three months is way to fast for anything serious. take time to get to know each other more. i think it is marvoulous how you two sat down and had a getting to know about each other and desires talk.
2007-02-07 05:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋