I caught him cheating, i moved out... A month later we had our daughter... we tried to work things out,but he continued to mess up... we stop talking for a while, then continued to find a way to be with each other... then i finally called it quits for good. I let him know that he does not know what he wants and im tired of givin 100% when all i keep getting from him is 25%. So i stop txt msging, calling, and sleeping with him. I let him know that the only time we are to talk is regarding our kids. Then started to get back in the dating game and i was having a blast... but i could not help the fact that i luv him, so he txt me and then we started again. So now we are working things out and he now understands that he has alot to prove.... Now i feel that we are both giving 100 % . Can we be happy after everything or do we just part our own ways..
2007-02-07 04:42:50 · 11 answers · asked by Faith23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
only u can answer that am afraid but good luck
2007-02-07 04:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot put the past behind you and start over. As one of the other post says you can forgive but you cannot forget. There is too much working against you to work out your relationship with your former lover. I see also some serious problems regarding relationships in general for you from what you describe. You need to think about what it is you want in your relationship with a man and look for that. You speak of commitment, you have children so you need a provider and father figure, you want or indicate some one who loves you. These are hard to find if you are not committed to living them out. Having fun is okay but a relationship is far more than that.
2007-02-07 05:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by cnc_13023 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that...95% of the time it will not work...He will not change for anyone but himself... Woman believe that men grow up and change especially when they have kids together and we are wrong. The way he is now is the way he will be later..You broke up a few times already for a reason why keep hitting yourself against the wall..You, him and the kids do not need it...Move on and be happy you'll be glad you did not waste more of your life or his trying to fix something that will not change! You can love someone but not be able to be together! Easier said then done i know!!...Good Luck
2007-02-07 04:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change the past. You can't predict the future. All you can do is live for the RIGHT NOW! And you have to ask yourself... Right now, am I happy with him? Is he happy with me? That's all that matters. If you bring up the past, you will never be able to move on. So let the past lay in the past, don't worry about the future, it's not here yet. Just concentrate on your daughter, your career, and your emotions with him.
If he falls down and fails on his end. You should know that he's not willing to give you what you need right now. Maybe he's just not capable. If he's doing good with everything, just be happy about it and show him your appreciation.
2007-02-07 04:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you can, if he is willing to give 100%, there are no rules and regulations when it comes to love, its the forgetting part. You may struggle with this and if he slips again, are you going to give him more chances. He will keep messing up if you do. I hope it works out for you and for your child. Good luck
2007-02-07 04:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK no it wont
a dog is always b a dog dont mind but b careful he could any reason behind this dont beleive him but for ur baby give him a chance but b careful &dont expecthonesty from him
best of luck
i'll wish tat he'll prove me wrong
2007-02-07 04:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by AANCHAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can be happy. I believe in unlimited chances when it comes to love. not friendship..but only love. Stay together for the kids at least. Or should i say, give it another CHANCE for the kids
2007-02-07 04:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who know you might actually work...all the expiences i had is once a dog always a dog...just dont let him run you over again and keep it clear that you wont put up with it again.
2007-02-07 04:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are a lot of things to try and get over...
2007-02-07 04:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater think about it
2007-02-07 04:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋