We have a daughter that is 8 months old, I want to have alother baby within 2-5 years, he doesnt want another kid.... what do I say to change his mind?
2007-02-07 04:42:47 · 24 answers · asked by ♥Proud Mommy♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I would wait and see what happens - your baby is still new and the idea of going thru all this again right now might seem a bit too much. When your child gets older he may change his mind but he may not. You cant convince anyone to want something they dont and tricking him into it could leave you a single parent of 2. Just wait and see for now, its not like you want to try at this point anyhow.
2007-02-07 04:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take each day as it comes he has an infant in the home, that's quite a change for any man!!! give the guy some time, mabey ask agin when the child is about 2 -3 for now, do not late this become an issue, just enjoy the one you have. and do not let him see the baby you have interupt his regular enjoyments, I've had 4 kids, not once did I force my husband to change diapers [when he did- it he did it] get up during the night or miss his favorite sports on t.v. I really enjoyed the care of babies. Don't let baby run the home.
2007-02-07 04:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 8 month old baby is probably occupying much of your time and may be cutting in to time you used to spend with or devote to your "old man." He may see this as continuing and even doubling if you have another baby. I'd suggest you wait awhile, and maybe he will soften up a bit.
2007-02-07 04:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ace Librarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want a man to father another child he clearly doesn't want? Don't you think A - he'll resent you and B - he'll resent the child...
I would never want to look at my child and think that he/she came into this world unwanted. As much as you may love and adore them...it would still be heartbreaking.
wait a year or two and then bring it up again to see if maybe with more distance between the child you have now and a possible new baby he's changed his mind. I would continue talking about the issue with him - but tricking him as suggested above is a very bad idea and not fair to him!
2007-02-07 04:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
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2016-09-28 13:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by bebber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time. Your baby is still new to him. Maybe he'll come around, maybe he won't. But if you walk into it "trying to change his mind" you'll just create animosity between the two of you. Have an open discussion about why you want to have another and why he doesn't. He may have legitimate reasons for not wanting another (just like you have legitimate reasons for wanting another.)
2007-02-07 04:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Express how bad you want another child to him, communication is key in a relationship, without it, it won't last. If he firm on not having any, there is nothing you can do besides leave him, and I don't think you want to go to that drastic measure. Good luck!
2007-02-07 04:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by ladyrapture1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he doesn't agree with you, you could always adopt. I know that its hard to agree on every thing with your spouse, but its life, everyone fights with there husband/wife. just talk to him give him a couple of days to think it over then sit down together and talk over your problem. Im sure that you'll find a way to convince him. well i hope it all works out. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-07 04:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your old man??
If your husband doesn't want another child, then you don't have another child. This is something that you both have to agree on or resentment will build and could destroy the marriage.
2007-02-07 04:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's important to you... there really isn't anything you can do to change his mind, maybe you can wait for those two years or so. And may just change his mind, like a change of heart.
2007-02-07 04:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋