i trust my husband in everyway.. he takes good care of me gives me lots of love and i trust him in that way to be there for me. but i dont trust him when it comes to him cheating on me he has in the past and he says he doesnt now but my gut instenk tells me he still does. woudl you have a family with him if you trusted him in every way except for him cheating .
2007-02-07 04:42:17 · 29 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no
2007-02-07 05:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by traveller 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth i dont understand much what u mean when u say u trust him ... if u cant trust him in this case (cheating) what is more important ? to love and care for someone means that u are there for ur partner and u dont start affairs with other people . what kind of love does he give u if not the one which shows u that u r the only person in his life ? without trust there is no such a thing called happy future .
i am sorry but u should think a lot about what u want to do with him in ur future
i wish u all the best
2007-02-07 04:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
Cheating is the 1 thing guaranteed to ruin the lives of everyone involved.
Think of it this way, if you had a family with him and he cheated on you, how would it affect your children?
How would they cope knowing that?
You might think he'd never leave you but seriously if he can have sex with another woman then he sure can leave you.
There's obviously something lacking in the relationship between you and what happens if he finds this something with someone else?
what happens if he then leaves you for another woman whilst you have small children to look after?
I can't believe anyone would even THINK of having children in this situation.
I think you both need counciling to see if you can find the root of your problems as a couple.
If he's cheating then to be honest I think you should leave him and have more respect for yourself. Your worth more than this.
You say he gives you love etc but how can he if hes cheating? How can you believe him if you know for sure he's been with other women?
Fair enough if you have an open relationship but you haven't said you have so I'll assume that's not the case.
Until something is worked out you should deffinately NOT EVEN COSIDER having children with this man.
2007-02-07 20:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rainbow-Taster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! Trust him completely or not at all. Having a family with him will not improve the situation at hand. Without trust in a relationship, you have nothing. Being cheated on leaves deep emotional scars, I know that personally. I can truly understand your gut feelings & it's only natural to be on guard with those feelings. Either you can try & put your husband's infidelity behind you, & focus on the positive things in your marriage or you may as well, move on in your life without him.
2007-02-07 04:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered your own question by asking. Marriage is about trust. Relationships in general are. It sounds like you two need to have a deep talk with each other. And if that still doesn't make the cheating feeling go away...Because if you instinctively feel like he's cheating (and he may or may not be), do you want to bring children in a marriage where you feel that way?
2007-02-07 04:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Michaela 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly no! I wouldn't bring children into a relationship that I didn't feel was secure. Work this out first and then talk about having a family. It isn't fair to put children through a relationship with fighting, cheating or trust issues.
2007-02-07 04:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! A relationship is based on trust..full trust.
What happens if you have kids and then find out he has been cheating..it will be a miserable situation for them to live through.
At least you could wait until these issues are resolved or leave him.
Sorry it's harsh but it's from my own experience. Good luck
2007-02-07 04:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What other ways do you 'trust' him for? Fidelity is THE most important thing in a relationship. If he has cheated on you before he'll do it again. No way i would even think having a family with such a partner. You are better off without him!
2007-02-07 04:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by sbro 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO! cheating is the ultimate thing you need trust in. who wants to go through their life being paranoid?! xanax can only go so far, you know. BUT if you say he loves you then..i would give it a chance. people make mistakes. I have been cheated on before and have rewarded that person with chance after chance. Give him that chance, and once he messes up, you'll know for sure that he is OUTTA HERE
2007-02-07 04:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi- I asked my man this - I read him your question & he said:
"If he's done it before, don't trust him."
I actually agree with that.
A cheat, cheats!
Having been married to one, with one child, that relationship cost me so dear, I learnt never to put myself or a child through that ever again.
If his love for you is genuine, & you want fidelity, & he has agreed to that but broken your trust, how can you trust? It doesn't matter what he's says, it matters what he does.
Having said that, it's rare these days to find a bloke who looks after you. Maybe you should reconsider the terms of your relationship, make it more open, & not have a family with him, but wait till you find someone who would make a trustworthy, good dad, cos kids need dad's like that.
2007-02-07 04:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you know the old saying you can´t change a Leopard´s spot´s . well this sound´s the same . I think the problem with women in general is we are insecure & this is what make´s us stay where we are , sure you love your husband , but why do you have to share him with someone else, Maybe counselling might be a good idea.
2007-02-07 04:57:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋