hi i have been on here confused. i knew my husband cheated on me in the past and i he says he doesnt cheat on me anymore. my gut instinked tells me he still does so i decided not to have his kids. i am almost 30.For the time being i want to stay with him because i still love him . we have a nice house together and we been together for years..
but it would be stupied to have kids with a man i cant trust . alot of women do it though they get married have kids and get divorced and they are stuck with raising the kid by their selves i feel bad for them. they can do it thought they are strong but i dont want to do it l i am thinking smart. later in life i may never have them cause i may never trust a man again
2007-02-07 04:35:38 · 9 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he has cheated once he will cheat again. If you are willing to accept this then go ahead and have children but he is not going to change. It has been done before............look at Hillary Clinton!
2007-02-07 04:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have the house and been together for years are not reasons to stay with someone. You say love him...but are you willing to sacrifice any children and your total happiness for someone you believe is still cheating on you? If you feel he is cheating..hire a PI and find out for sure. That way if you do decide to leave you have that proof. You will trust men again. It will just take the perfect man to do it. He's out there you will find him....but first you need to get out of your current situation.
2007-02-07 12:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm trust and honesty go hand in hand. Once your trust in someone is broken, in all reality it will always be there. True love dosent hurt!!!! Love yourself and hold in your heart the things that you know will make or break this relationship. It takes 2 to keep any relationship going strong. It only takes 1 to destroy it. Please dont get hurt anymore than you have.Take care and be at peace with the emotions and feelings that you have. Only you know whats right for you. Dont be fooled into thinking your wrong by your concerns. Its your heart, protect it from anymore pain and hurt.
2007-02-07 12:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by ipoundiron 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately say to wait until you can trust him. Having children is really hard on a marriage and to start having kids on shaky ground is NOT something I would recommend. If having children is important to you then you need to decide if he is the right guy for you. Do you really want to spend your whole life wondering where he is and what he is doing all the time?
2007-02-07 12:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Alyssa T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying and a true one " where there's no trust-there's no love".
God gave us women a gut instinct for one reason "to trust in it".
2007-02-10 03:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good girl...Very sensible...Only one thing though...Don't close your doors on maybe finding a man you can trust and maybe marry instead as, sweet heart, time goes really quickly and you will want babies one day....
2007-02-07 13:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by sparkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have decided. (Wisely I believe) why did you bother asking?
Just have the courage of your convictions until such time as you CAN learn to trust.
2007-02-07 16:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is everything
2007-02-07 12:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by paul lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
***** forever.
2007-02-07 12:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋