Im so Confused and i need any help that you can offer me. Im worrying about this problem over and over and cant come to any rational answer.
Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and up unitl 2 months ago everything was OUT OF THIS WORLD....Honestly It was fantastic. I could see my future with him stretching into the distance.
One day out of the blue a thought entered my head - what if I dont love him - What if it is all my imagination and I am convincing myself of this.
Since then, which was 2 months ago I cant get the thoughtd out of my head, they worry me from the time I get up to thje time I go to bed. They worry me when I am at work and even somtimes (rarely) When I Am with my boyfriend. When I hug him and kiss him, in the back of my mind a voice is asking me if what im doing is fair on him because what if deep down inside I Dont love him?
I have explained this to my bf and he is being very supportive. I still enjoy spending time with him and enjoy goign on weekend getaways with him but prefer to just me him and I and no one else we know.
How can I beat this cycle of worry and try to work it out if I really do love him? I keep telling myself that I wouldnt be so hurt and worries at the thought of losing him if I didnt love him, but that doesnt seem to have an effect on my mental state.
Any suggestions? My GP put me on an anti-anxiety pill and that is helping a bit
2007-02-07 04:34:20 · 3 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think this happens to all of us at some point in our lives. It is a bit scary to put ourselves and our emotions out there for someone. It sounds like you are getting ahead of yourself and worrying for no reason. If you enjoy being with him right now, then great enjoy it now. Don't worry about next month or next year or even next week. It sounds cliche but if you will just take this day and get through it, your life will be a lot less stressful. Today is as much as I can handle, tomorrow isn't here yet and you can't change the past, so try to deal with it that way. The anti anxiety meds should help and I wish you lots of happiness.
2007-02-07 04:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been five months. It takes time to build a trusting and lasting relationship. You should be enjoying the process instead of obsessing about the 'what if's'. Communication is a vital part of any good relationship--keep working on that while you figure out how you both feel. There's no timetable and no rush. Just enjoy things as they are now. Good Luck
2007-02-07 04:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it in your head you dont love him
2007-02-07 04:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by paul lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋