I am 18 years old and going on 6 months pregnant. I am in college and I guess at first I really did not accept being pregnant, but now I know I have to take care of it so I scheduled a doctors appointment. but, what should I say my reason was for waiting so long.I do not want to sound like I was unconcerned, even if I was.
2007-02-07 04:29:17 · 30 answers · asked by geekychic88 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
just be honest with the Dr
2007-02-07 04:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by KP 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Good job scheduling that appointment!
Be honest. You are 18 and scared. Next question.
When you get pregnant and have a baby, one of the first things that has to go out the window is caring what other people think.
You are in charge, you are the mother - you have to transition your mindset from being a teenager to a responsible adult.
Go to the appointment, answer her questions and do the right things.
By the way, congratulations on your baby.
It's going to be hard no question, but I'm sure you'll find the strength.
I would like to also put in a plug for adoption please.
I have seen my brother and his wife adopt 3 babies. They are grateful to the birth mothers everyday.
Best wishes to you.
2007-02-07 12:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I seriously doubt you are the first person he has come across who has done this. And my guess would be it wasn't a lack of concern over the baby, but a psychological block of not wanting to accept the idea of responsibility.
At 18, you are quite young and responsibility doesn't come easy. These things happen, you are not the only one who avoids it (and I would say you are in fact in the majority of people no matter the age).
He may ask, he may already know the answer. Generally when they ask the question, it may be a form of rebuke anyway and you aren't actually meant to answer. Accept it with an "I know" (said in a "regretful" way) or something like that and say you are serious about taking care of the kid now; and it should be done after that.
2007-02-07 12:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest. Say, "I had trouble accepting that I was pregnant. This has been very difficult for me." It will certainly not be the worst thing the doctor has ever heard from a pregnant mom-to-be.
Another thing to be honest about is any other things you may have done in your non-acceptance phase: including drinking, drugs, smoking, or sexual behaviors. These things can all have an effect on your baby, so the doc needs to know about them.
2007-02-07 12:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by MissA 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you were afraid or were having trouble with finances. They wont be mean to you or anything, they will be happy that you are there now. Having a baby is exciting and they will treat it that way, so dont expect them to pass judgement on you, they will more than likely be happy for your new arrival. Good luck! One cool thing is by this time in your pregnancy you can find out the sex of the baby if you want to, and will be able to hear the heart beat well, you are probably even feeling little kicks and stirrings in there. =)
2007-02-07 12:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, they have seen and heard it all!!! I am sure some even waited longer than that! If he does ask, just be honest.
I am sure the OBGYN will not want to insult you or make you feel uncomfortable. He/she will be glad you are seeing a doctor now. Don't feel guilty, just go and be proud you are doing the right thing!!!
You will get to find out asap the sex of the baby! Congrats and good luck!
2007-02-07 12:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by FrazzledMom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest, say that you just couldn't accept the fact that you are pregnant and it took you a long time to come to terms with it. If you happen to get a stroppy doctor it doesn't hurt to remind them, politely of course, that you are the customer in this situation and s/he is the service provider, they are there to look after you, you did not get pregnant to keep them in a job.
2007-02-07 12:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't see a doctor until I was 18 weeks along. They never asked me why. If they do just tell them you were having personal issues and you were taking care of them. If they persist ask them sternly if they can handle your prenatal care or if you need to take your business elsewhere. They should be OK with you. Good luck
2007-02-07 12:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell them you were unconcerned they need to know everything, if you don't want it then give it up for adoption if you want it more then anything in this world then you would have taken care of it from day one. When someone really, really wants a child they start taking care of their bodies well before conception. Good Luck
2007-02-07 12:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by PrettyEskimo 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The doctor's first concern will be for your health that the health of your unborn baby, don't feel guilty, promise yourself that you will start taking a more active roll and start taking responsiblity for your babies health and start going regularly, it is what is best for you both. Besides being there to ensure your health and your babies health, your doctors opinion should be kept to himself. I think if he asks you you should politely explain that you are here now and you intend to come every month as suggested. HTH!!
2007-02-07 12:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by MOT-XJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i didn't know i was preg until i was 3 months and then waiting for insurance took a while and i got married in the mean time so i didn't get my first apt. until i was 5 months along. i went to a midwife and she never asked me why i waited so long. she just asked if i was taking my vitamins and such and i was and that was that. my baby was a big healthy boy.
2007-02-07 12:35:49 · answer #11 · answered by island_chick21 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋