to young to marry?

Question

yeah me and my gf have been going out for almost a year and we are both 18 and we are madly in love with each other and both want to go to college together and live together and be married and start our lives

are we too young?
how should i ask her dads approval?
and how should i tell my parents?

Answer 1

Iam 20 years old I got married at 18 years old and have been married for 2 years If you guys are in love go for it go to college do your thing what ever but if you love her dont mess the change to be with her I went to college and I ways married I never thought that I would go because I would never get to see my Husband but things work out we both went to the same Collage and as for the dads approval just ask him be honest tell him how much you love his daughty and things will work out and just tell your parents the truth also dont lie it will help anything
good luck and I wish you all the happiness in the world to you and your girlfriend

Answer 2

Age is not the issue.

It's a matter of the maturity of both of you to make an adult decision.

My wife and I have been married 16 years. I was 22 and she was 19 when we got married. We have two great teen age sons and we have learned to roll through the good and the bad times.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment and you have to be willing to work at it. You will experience some great rewards, while you will also have to make great sacrifices.

Ultimately it is a choice that you and your girlfriend need to make.

Don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do. I will however state that you may want to search deep inside yourself as to what your commitment is and ask that your girlfriend do the same.

Find out about successful marriages as well as failed marriages...what has been the keys to both. You will know if the two of you are right for each other and what the next step should be.

On that note, are you best friends and have you kept yourselves pure for marriage?

Answer 3

Statistically there are more divorces if the couple gets married under the age of 25 years old. If you really do love her- wait- there's no harm in waiting. I really believe that it takes AT LEAST two full years to truly know someone. You haven't been dating for one year yet- It's not that I don't believe that you love her but marriage is hard work and if you combine that with the pressures of school, parents, protecting and providing for a new family it could mean disaster... just wait... it's not a big deal, you are both are too young.

You should definately have conversations with both of your and her parents though, let them know the direction the relationship is going. Ususally, parents have pretty good advice and input. Good luck ;)

Answer 4

Yup, 18 is toooooo young to marry. But you can remain a committed couple and still not marry. What you want at 18 isn't what you want at 28 often, And if you have a child, your relationship is in the toilet even before you truly know each other... Stay together, stay committed, and stay sweet and kind toward each other.. remember that relationships are admiration, respect, passion and trust. Don't toss a screaming, demanding kid into this,---- vomit in the bed 2 am feedings, fussiness that goes on for days, colic that goes on for weeks, crap all over everywhere, and one tired mom..... yadadaday,---- until your relationship is solid, and can stand the trauma, and hon, there will be trauma!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Advise to you? If your love is real, know each other well before you marry.... then know each other very well before you begin your family......and don't get her pregnant now, hon you relationship won't last 5 years.... just read all these questions on this site if you doubt it..... all the best sweetie.

Answer 5

At 18, you still have a lot of learning and living and growing to do. I am not trying to talk down to you, just speaking from experience. If you're truly meant to be together, then it will happen, and there's no reason it can't wait until you're finished going through college and deciding what career paths you want to pursue. If you really love each other, that means you want the best for one another and that means that you will want to be at your best in not only your relationship, but with your plans about your careers, finances, families, etc.

Best of luck whatever you decide!

Answer 6

I suggest you have a really long engagement. I think its wonderful that you are both in love and feel like you are ready to make that next step, but college is the start to a whole new independent life. Stay engaged for 2 years. If the engagement works, get married. It's almost as expensive to get divorced as it is to get married.

Answer 7

I feel you should become engaged for now and go to college first and then get married after the college is done. I wish you the best and good luck. However if you are ready for marriage and the lifetime committment involved then by all means go for it. My daughter is 20 and is in a serious relationship with her boyfriend and they are planning on marrying in a few years.

Answer 8

I think you should go to college, live in different dorms, and see what happens. College is a huge time of growth and change, and you may want to fully experience that without the stress of a new marriage.
If you are meant to be together, you can get married after graduation. I think you'll be surprised at what a massive change college life will be.

Answer 9

Yes, you are too young. You need to go to college, seperately and experience life on your own first. Then decide... a couple years, you'll do alot of growing and changing. This is my opinion. If you decide to go ahead with it, just tell your parents how you feel. And yes, you should ask her father's approval... it'll show you really care for her and her family. good luck.

Answer 10

I don't think anyone is to young to get married.HOWEVER I do feel that a long engagement is a better option.You are just starting out in this cruel world and haven't completed your education.Remember their is alot of responsibility in marriage and it is harder to stay married now than it was when your folks got married.Don't rush things if it is meant to be then why not wait until you are finished with school.