everytime someone shouts at me or gets angry with me i have to leave the room and force myself not to cry and the only way i can do that is by hurting myself by running a fork over my arm really hard and i dont like the sense of helplessness i feel and i want to make it stop i dont even know why i feel the need to cry please help
2007-02-07 04:17:32 · 12 answers · asked by anangelcalled 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Shout back! You are wanting to cry because you are holding everything in. So not only are they hurting you by being mean to you, but you are hurting yourself also. Double-whammy! Stand up for yourself, get your feelings off your chest, take a deep breath, and you will feel much better.
2007-02-07 04:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you're coming from.
And the feeling of not having control over your SELF by being overcome by these subconscious habits.
You should speak to a counsellor or doctor. You may not realise, but you have deeper issues that are causing these reactions. Until you understand these things (from a qualified professional) you aren't likely to feel any better.
Good on you for taking the step to ask the question. Now the most important part, is getting proper help.
Good luck sweetheart.
2007-02-07 12:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sparky5115 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a inner conflict in you. At one point, you don't want people to know how you feel, so you can't confront with them. The way you handle is to hurt yourself which is not good.
Sometimes, we have to speak it up, let it out, let people know how you feel. Or you may be hurting yourself more than physically, but emotionally or mentally.
Try to do it next time by yelling back. You shouldn't care about how people feel. It is your feeling that matters.
Of course, there are situation that you should keep quiet, but hurting yourself is only a way to vent out your helpless conscience
2007-02-07 12:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you get yourself sorted out, skip the utensils and get yourself a nice bag of ice. Grip a couple of those puppies real hard the next time you get pissed off. It will hurt like hell, but doesn't leave a mark. Plus, you can get a cold drink out of the deal after you start to laugh at how silly it was to get upset about such a silly thing. Build your confidence slowly and you will find you can deal with more and more situations like these without getting self-destructive.
2007-02-07 15:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Janso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a counselor about this--you are learning methods of handling anger that are very self-destructive...You are also teaching yourself that crying is bad---I would really suggest that you find a counselor that you connect with--a god thrapist--another thing you can do is to begin journalling--every time you feel angry or vulnerable--start writing it down--just get it out on paper--you can even rip up the papers afterwards if you want to--it's okay to express anger and sorrow--but in appropriate and healthy ways--you seem to not be expressing your emotions to others but are taking them out on yourself...again--please see someone and try the journaling
2007-02-07 12:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be afraid to cry, i often feel loads better after haivng a good old sob for no particular reason.
try to put each arguement etc. into perspective. very often things aren't as bad as you think they are.
take a second to remove yourself from the situation (as you rightly do already) and then just think about your troubles, the good tihngs in your life, and also then how you can move on from the fight or sometihng.
i'm no expert but i hope this helps. i hope that things improve for you soon, xx
2007-02-07 12:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by FreakGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a student like that. Takes everything way too seriously. Without conselling , you will not be able to relieve yourself of this trait.
Get some counselling and see if maybe there is something in your past that is causing these feelings (If you do not already know what it is)
2007-02-07 12:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Vincent W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I do this too. I hurt myself to take away how they have made me feel, which is normally useless.. People have said its because I take life to seriously but you cant help how your made up, I am getting help at the moment hopefully it will sort things. Take care and get the help you need x
2007-02-07 17:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by pringles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a well-qualified hypnotherapist/psychotherapist. You need to find out about the deep roots of this problem.
2007-02-07 12:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by Rozzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sorry to hear this you need to see your doc and work on your confidence i think but im not a pro this is just friendly advice hope you get through this i wish you all the best x
2007-02-07 12:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by becca b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋