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My dog had died on December 12, 2006 at 7:00 p.m. because some punk (which we can't find or link to) had dumped a butt load of anti-freeze on our front lawn. She ate some of it and her kidneys failed. I can't stop crying over her and I don't what to do. I'm the only one in the family who can't let her go. I want to move on but I can't. I've tried everything. I loved her like she was my baby. We had her for 4 years and she was only 8 yrs. young. I want to avenge her but I can't link this murder to anyone. I want to let her go and move on but not forget her. Please help me. I know this is what she would want. It's for the best.

I know the time cause we had to put her down. She was in the hospital for 1 entire day of suffering and I can't forgive myself.

She was on a leash thank you very much. It's rude people like you that make being alive seem like punishment.

Answer 1

YOU DON'T NEED TO BE FORGIVEN FOR ANYTHING! You didn't do anything wrong. All you did was love this dog while she was here. Unfortunately, you'll probably never find out who the evil low life is.
You say that you think your dog would want you to avenge her but I would bet she would want you to spend your energy elsewhere. Look into volunteering at your local animal shelter. Give some other lonely, unloved animals the love you would have given her. Good luck to you. I know what you're going through. I lost two dogs last year. One to sinus cancer and the other to old age. It is a heart breaker to lose these family members.

Answer 2

You can't move on because you have unfinished business...as you say, you feel you "can't forgive myself." Once you do that, your grieving and acceptance and moving on will happen in time normally.

For a moment, set your emotions aside and accept these realities...
- You and your dog had good time together...you never know how much time that will be, and that time you had was what you had, and it was good
- It was an accident, not murder...the careless individual didn't intend to kill your dog
- It wasn't your fault, so you don't have to forgive yourself. In truth, there was nothing you could do to prevent the accident
- Beginning right now, when you think of your dog, think only of the good times. Don't think about how your dog died. It's a useless thing to do. Focus on the good.
- Your dog really is gone. Not coming back. This isn't a comforting thought, but you have to accept it to move on.
- You will be fine. Chances are high you'll get another sweet dog someday and love it very much.

Your grieving is normal, except that you need to accept what has happened and focus more on today and the future and less on your loss. The pain will never totally go away, and that's normal, too, and you have to accept that as well. It's the price we all willingly pay for loving someone.

Answer 3

I know there will never be a replacement for her, but maybe if you took all the love you have for her, and gave it to a new little puppy, who may desperately need you, just as you need her right now. Things happen for a reason, even if we may never know what that reason was. Time will heal, and I know you have heard that over and over. Maybe you should file a police report if you think someone did this on purpose. It is against the law to harm an animal, just as it is a person. Try going to a shelter, and I bet the cute little faces of the animals that are hoping to go home with you, will put a little smile on your face. Sometimes the only way we can deal with our pain, is if we force ourselves to.

Answer 4

I just lost my baby this last October. Day after halloween. It was a early time more about 5:36 pm. He was the love of my life and had lived through the good times and bad and we had moved from apartment to apartment together. He was part of my leaving home and making a new life for myself. Shortly after my last move he was hit by a car and the person never stopped. My hate and aggression towards that person will never stop, the fact that they had the nerve to be so inconsiderate towards me and the girls and not give us an explanation, but I buried him in his favorite place in the yard and keep pictures up to remind me how much I loved him. Since I have received another puppy to love, although she doesn't fill the hole in my heart where he was, she does give me the affection that only a pet can.

Answer 5

its always hard to let a pet go especially when its at the fault of some ones vicious act but you cant change what has happened this will probably take a lot of time to heal for you and thats fine if you need to cry then do it..of course you miss the dog and thats what makes the loss even harder just keep in mind that there is nothing you could have done in this situation to change what this person did and in time peace will come to you..when me and my roommate moved out from each other she took my dog with her and it took me a year to get mostly over it but even now i miss the dog and think about him, dream about him too..just take your time you will be ok

Answer 6

To feel grief in the passing of a pet is natural , and to feel vengeful for the murder of a pet is also natural.

The best thing to do is to try to forgive , and remember your pet the way she was when she was living.

Get another pet , not to replace her , but to remember her by.

You can't have revenge without knowing who did it , so you are going to have to move on. It wasn't your fault.

If you ever find out who did it , take your revenge by reporting it. Not only does antifreeze hurt animals , but it is an environmental issue to dump chemicals.

Answer 7

I had a dog that died in horrible circumstances. Years later I still have really sad dreams about her.
They say time heals all wounds : It doesn't, but over time other thoughts and feelings come to the fore and fill the emptiness. You'll just have to wait for that to happen. But you never forget.

Answer 8

Why did you let your dog out without being on a leash? You broke the law and share some of the blame. Forget about getting even. Think about what you did wrong.