I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and have lived with him for about 2 1/2. Last Christmas I found a bag he uses for work with a couple presents inside. Being the curious type I tried to figure out what they were and it felt like it was lingerie. Christmas came and I never got those presents. I didn't think too much of it anymore until I went in his coat pocket to grab some mints and pulled out a condom instead. I'm on the pill so this didn't make sense. So I checked that bag again and this time the lingerie was there with a whole bunch of condoms and one wrapper was empty. I was leaving for work at 5am so I emailed him about the condom I found in his coat (not mentioning what I found in his bag); his reply was that I was being silly and that his work has millions of them & that they were showing the residents (he's a supervisor for a mental health apt building) how to use them. Doesnt explain the lingerie. Do you think he's lying? My instincts tell me he is; what do I do?
2007-02-07 04:08:34 · 16 answers · asked by Lynny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Uh oh :( I'm so sorry hun. but i think he is too. Are you SURE it was lingerie and not like, a silk tie or something?? I would go ahead and ask about it. From what you said, it looks like yall were living together within the first 6 months of your relationship. maybe yall took it a little too fast and now he is looking elsewhere :( I'm sorry, i hate situations like this, i really do
2007-02-07 04:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well first of all hun, u have a reason to believe that hes cheating. IF he was using the condom as a demo purpose, why is the wrapper in his pocket? and was he using the lingerie as a DEMO too????? what is he a drag queen????? Sorry but u need to sit down and tell him how u feel....if he gets all defensive and gets mad about it...then u know hez cheating....usually guys get all rowdy and mad when they ARE doing something wrong....so that'll give u ur answer....best of luck hun:(
(trust me i know what I'm telling u because I've been in the same situation before and it turns out my gut instinct was absolutely right...he waz cheating....)
2007-02-07 12:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is quite obvious that he is lying and i honestly feel sorry for you. but if he is cheating on you then its jest not him your meant to be with for the rest of your life, if i were you i would just let him go. don't make a huge fuss about it he's obviously not worth it. but before you do anything drastic you really need to sit down and have a lengthy talk about it, if you think that your problems can be resolved and he really wants to commit this time, then i definitely think you should give him another go. hope everything gos well for you. from Soph
2007-02-07 12:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sofia F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is cheating then he is cheating.You can either confront him sit and talk .Or don't say anything and watch every move he makes until you get more prove then confront him and leave him forever ,once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-02-07 13:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by jea1010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your eyes!! Yes he's cheating, you have multiple clues that all point to the same thing... do you have to catch him at it to accept it? Dump him now, he's a scumbag! If you decide to stay with him and accept his lies, I would advise you tell him to start wearing the condom because you're gonna catch something.
2007-02-07 12:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and tell him about all the evidence. See what he has to say about the lingerie.
2007-02-07 12:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell1688 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you don't trust him at this point you either need to investigate to figure it out or just flat out ask him... although taht could lead to him lying more if he already is or if he's not cheating then it would break his trust with you. Up to you, either way it's playing with fire.
2007-02-07 12:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lil Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you can call that show Cheaters on G4 and they can spy on ur boyfriend and find out if hes cheating.
2007-02-07 12:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by xO YaYeR Xo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him again and see what he says and you still think he's lying break up wit him.
2007-02-07 12:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by tiara b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, well, you seem fairly gullible...
if he was 'giving a demo' (which seems odd for his work) then he would have disposed of it whe opening it...
from what you say, he is cheating.
2007-02-07 12:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by bilko_ca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋