should I accept him again?

Question

my ex bf that be have broken up about 3 years(after one year relationship),he loved me very much he was getting cold and elusive and never told me the reason so I quit and leave but he is still available in my life and it doesn't seem that he decide to leave me alone. in these 3 years without saying anything about start again,but now he innuendo that he like to start again with me,maybe because he find out I may leave here forever and he would miss me forever. but I do know if I should accept it without knowing the reason of 3 years ago,because I dount if he consent to tell me since he hasn't told me before either .should I trust him and be sure he won't do this again as he promise me? or I should insist that he tell me the reasons of past?

Answer 1

if he was there for every time in span 3 years so may he do have some misunderstanding abt u which he dont wanna to share with u coz he dont wanna to hurt u may he was suspecting &dont have courage to ask u something so acc to me u must take him under ur cofidence &try to wat happenad to him ur relationshop &only then accept him
&this time b little bit careful
best of luck

Answer 2

You actually have not given us enough information to make a good judgment. If three years ago he was thinking of marriage to you I can understand, but if he because this way as he became involved with another person then this is totally different. But again that is his point of view not yours.
Your words to us is you still care and maybe always did or you would not be asking for help, but it sounds as if the problem is communications not he said she said, you need to learn to communicate your feelings better, and get more information before you decide your self? My advice is go with your gut after asking him to explain, first is he telling the truth, second do you buy this story he is telling you as reasonable and legitimate.
But you leaving without understanding him says a lot, and you are probably wanting him back out of guilt more than love. I would advise you to have a friend ask him if you cannot communicate with him without emotions or bias, but if you can is best to hear why before you jump back into anything and promise yourself you will not make a decision that day if you speak to him. But in NO WAY should you start a relation with someone you do not trust.
Do not insist he has to tell you but simply ask and judge what you should do by how honest you feel he is with you.

Answer 3

When Jesus died on the cross, in payment for your sins, how many of your sins were in the future? Answer, ALL of them. All your sins. The sins you committed in the past. The sins you committed today, the sins you will commit a week from next tuesday. All your sins are paid for. What is the sign that he has not given up on you? The fact that you are asking the question of whether he will accept you. If he had given up on you, you would have had your conscience seared and you would be given over to a strong delusion that you did not need him. Jesus loves you. He will forgive you, but he may not protect you from the effects of your bad decisions. If you gamble, you may have no money. If you skip school, you may not graduate. If you have sex, you may father a child out of wedlock. And that could cause you to have to pay child support for a very long time. Now let me address the idea that you are useless. Wrong. You are not useless. Even the worst of us can serve as a bad example of what not to do. But I think that you are better than that. Even if you cannot find a job, there are things that you can do. Find a need and fill it. Volunteer at a food pantry or soup kitchen. Help clean up at a homeless shelter. Volunteer for the Red Cross. Jesus loves you. He expects good things from you. Try to reflect his love to other people in your life. Soon you will find that as you work your way to helping others, things will begin to work out for you too. Now get moving, you already know what to do.

Answer 4

Run as far away in the OPPOSITE direction!!
He's not worth trusting and I will tell you this from experience, when I guy gets elusive like that, he's seeing someone else and either 1) feels guilty about it or 2) Finds her totally exciting and wants out but doesn't know how to say to. Run like hell!!!!

Answer 5

Well, what you want to hear is "go with your heart"..."trust him". It's what you are going to do anyway.

The truth is that you can't trust him. He's been cheating, but he knows an enabler when he sees one so he'd like to have you as the "sure thing" and still be able to cheat when he feels like it. He's telling you what you want to hear so you have an excuse to forgive and forget. He may tell you the truth. I don't think you REALLY want to hear it, but I don't think you'll leave him for it. Heck, you might even applaud his honesty this time. And the next. And the next. And the next.

So go ahead and forgive him. You are anyway. I know an enabler when I see her too.

Answer 6

I would tell him that, how can I trust that you wont hurt me after what happened last time and you still have not told me why!! Maybe if you are honest with me nd open communication I will consider it

Answer 7

Ask him what went wrong before then make your decision about now. He could of matured since then.

Answer 8

Get answers first.The two of you should be able to communicate about anything.Im suspecting there was someone else that he was interested in,,thats why he cant talk about it.

Answer 9

the past is the past. if you are willing to move forward then you have to let the past go. so do you really want to know what happened??? or do you want to start over??? you cant change the past, but you dont have to repeat it!!!

Answer 10

i think u shud go back out wit him because this will be a good time to find out wat happend 3 years ago. also it wud be great cause from wat i read i thing he isnt over u n dat u shud a least give him a chance to let you no how he reallii feels...