How to get rid of a friend?

Question

how do i get rid of a friend that uses me and is only hanging out with me until he can drive. i've tried to get rid of him before but its hard because when i try he gets mad and starts to spread rumors about me. also, when he hangs out with people he believes to be coolor than me he gets in a mood where all he does is say nasty things about me. it's vey hard to hang out with or talk to anyone else because he feels that his opinion of the person is the only one that matters. i dont have many people that i hang out with, and if i stop talking to him i will most likely have nothing to do. so yeah how do i get rid of him without him saying nasty things about me, and also how do i get new friends when i do get rid of him?

Answer 1

I'm a girl and don't know exactly how guys work but this works with most girls. tell him that you feel like he is using you, and that you respect his opinion so he should respect yours when it comes to other people, and that when he pisses you off you don't go around telling people about all the shi* he does to you, and he shouldn't do that to you. before you do this start hanging out with other people that are potently friends, and start going to movies and concerts with your new friends and then when he starts getting mad at you for hanging out with other people tell him its your life and your aloud to have more then one friend, then tell him whats bother you. and if he still talks shi* about you at least you will have new friends that wont give a shi* about what the jerk thinks.

Answer 2

Take a hint from this guy's ego boost. Tell him you're busy and besides, he's doing fine without you. I know this is going to sound mean, but it's meant well, he's a "friend" because of "if i stop talking to him i will most likely have nothing to do". Life does not hinge on one person talking to you, especially if they think dirt better than you.
He'll probably be pissed and spread rumors no matter what you do, but take them in stride. As in laugh about whatever people pass on from him and say something like "what a joke" (along those lines anyway).

I'm not sure how old you are, but most cities/schools have a decent selection of clubs and activities available. Find something that sounds interesting and check it out. Even if you don't know a lot about the subject, most club people are more than willing to give advice about their selected interest. If it sounds good, jump in and start socializing with members. Just remember these two rules, you left your friend for being a Jack~, don't act like one yourself and don't play pretend with people, they're not as stupid as they might seem.

Answer 3

It is tough to ditch loser friends when you have so little to begin with. So try picking up some interesting hobbies. Learn guitar or build stuff and try to meet new people through work or school.

The loser is not worth your annoyances of him and being on your own for a while isn't a bad thing. You can spend time on yourself and that is really helpful at times. Spend your freetime examining your life and relationships (especially with this loser) ignore the gossip, and start up some new hobbies. When you meet some new and interesting people through work or school (wouldn't highly recommend online friends) you will know how to better handle your new friends and hopefully they will treat you better.

Answer 4

Just be open and honest with him and tell him the whole truth, nothing but the truth. He will say something about you regardless, so don't worry about what comes out of his mouth. People will see what kind of person he really is anyway. As for making new friends, go out there and mingle, strike up a conversation, and be more outgoing. That is how you make new friends. I hope my advice helps you. Good luck.

Answer 5

Its hard to politely let someone go when they act vindictive and spread rumors. That's a toughie....I would say just ignore him. Ignore his calls. Forever. If that doesnt work, and he leaves rude voicemails to you about "CALL ME BACK DAMNIT!!!" Then call back and let him hear it once you blow up and get mad enough.
Let the other people talk their ****, i mean, if he's as IRRATIONAL as he sounds, then who else would believe that ****? And even if they do, I'd suggest just not caring and finding new friends. By ignoring all the bullshit, you'll come out being the stronger person.

Answer 6

Don't do anything. Just stop hanging out with me. Stop calling them. Don't call them back. Just slowly drift away. You are smart to be more careful about friend selection. Get involved in activities that you enjoy. You should be able to find people in which you have more in common.

Answer 7

Next time he treats you this way ,,just tell him to buzz off.Who cares if he runs his mouth.Most people will see right through that ,,that he is a loser.He doesnt sound like a real friend so why waste time hanging out with him.Maybe others would want to spend time with you if he wasnt around.

Answer 8

Who cares what he says about you - lose the loser! You just have to be yourself, you shouldn't have friends for what you can do for them but who you are. Your true friends will not believe anything he says anyway, and you will make new friends by being yourself and being around people like you. He will eventually find another lackey to do things for him and forget all about you......or that's an idea - find a new friend for him yourself! Could be worth a shot?!?

Answer 9

first, be straight up and honest about letting him know to go away, and stay away. Second, you can't stop him from saying bad things about you, everybody makes their own decisions, and third, you want to make new friends afterwards, get yourself out there, mingle, spark up conversation, be bold, brave, and most important of all, be yourself. You can't fail with that.

Answer 10

Keep avoiding him. He will move on eventually.