we are not married would it be wrong for me to look elsewhere for sex?
2007-02-07 03:35:33 · 16 answers · asked by pumper_6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, why are you asking us? You should be asking her if she has an issue with your trying to meet your sexual needs outside the relationship. Second, although chronic pain does make it difficult to feel sexual, sex can be helpful. An orgasm can be a stress-reliever and can even relieve pain for a short time. I have chronic pain too, and I think she needs to find a good doctor who can assist her with the pain problem, because RA has treatments that do help. It sounds as if she is not being treated properly by her doctors and/or she is using RA as an excuse not to have sex. My guess is the first - pain does make you feel like even a person's touch might send you through the roof (in a bad way). Be gentle, kind, affectionate, and explain that you are worried about her, and that you want to be able to be sexual with her and you think she needs to talk to her doctor about better pain management options. There are good doctors out there who have options to help with the pain. She needs to see doctors until she finds the one who can help - many pain doctors are too scared to treat someone's pain because so many people have used pain meds for the wrong reasons. But there are good ones out there who can help - I know! It took me years but I finally found not one, but two!
2007-02-07 03:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well look for sex somewhere else and while you are at it might as well look for another lady. No way you will get married and be faithful and then get sex once a month. Unless, she does not mind you playing around as long as you do not bring it home. Some woman only want a home and someone to take care of them, and you can screw whoever you want.
2007-02-07 11:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Big C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a committed relationship, then yes it is wrong for you to look elsewhere for sex. If it is a problem which you feel your relationship cannot withstand then you need to end the relationship so that you can feel free to find love somewhere else.
2007-02-07 11:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Moosha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Of course it would and I think you already know that. Either break up with her and then go get sex elsewhere or being a loving person and have some patience.
2007-02-07 11:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by ஐ♥Gin♥ஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually had an ex like this, she hated the idea of having sex because it hurt her too bad. To make a long story short it ended with us breaking up for this and other reasons, and now I'm with a girl who is making me much more happy.
2007-02-07 11:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by chance y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is selfish of you to consider sex with someone else even though she has RA she will have her good days and when she does you will be able to enjoy it more so chill out until then
2007-02-07 12:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by drightchristy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what RA is but if the two of you are in a commited relationship, then, yes, that would be wrong.
2007-02-07 11:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be wrong! there are other ways to be pleased. if you plan on finding sex from somewhere else then break up with her. she is probably already feeling bad about this, by going somwhere else you are cheating and that will make her feel even worse
2007-02-07 11:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by rain9439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it's not wrong. but most people believe it's morally wrong. however, if your lady can't find any solution to her problem except allow you to have sex with someone else, then it's not wrong.
2007-02-07 11:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by Questioning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, if you are in relationship, commited with a person then that is cheating & yes it is wrong. if you need sex that bad, break up w/her & do your thing, but don't put her thru getting cheating on.
2007-02-07 11:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋