16 and pregnant?

Question

My mam is realy religous and doesnt believe in children before marage or before 21.How can i tell her im pregnant withsome randomer????????????

Answer 1

Look, SH!T happens...

I know your situation isn't what your parents planed for, and it may not even be what you planed for yourself. I know some parent will flip out and disown you or give you cr@p every chance they get but you have to move forward. Your a mother now (unless you choose to abort the child). If this was a mistake then you HAVE to learn from the experience. Make sure this does not happen again, use condoms, get on birth control or abstain from sex. But regardless your mother will have to get over it because your child will be here in 9 months or less and you have to prepare yourself for another life that YOU (not you mother) will have to support. That could mean you don't get to go out-of-state for college, you may have to go to a community college, but you made a grown woman choice so you have to make some grown woman decisions.

JMO

Answer 2

If your chose to act like an adult by having sex, you need to step up and be an adult when you tell her. Of course it is going to suck, but you have to tell her for the benefit of you and your unborn baby. If you sneak around and don't tell her you and your baby will not get the medical attention you need and you will put that baby at risk. You and that baby already have all the odds against you, try to increase the odds of having a healthy baby and tell your mom what's going on NOW. I'm 36 and I just had twins four months ago and they were in the NICU at the hospital for two months after they were bornbecause they couldn't grow large enough inside of me. They were born two months early and I did everything right. There was a14 year old girl that had a baby in the same NICU. The baby was born 2 pounds 4 ounces and she though the baby was cute! The baby wasn't cute, it was very sick and on the road to death. Teenagers need help when it comes to having baby's. When you are too old and or too young to have a baby, the baby's are the ones that suffer. Don't bring your baby any extra harm by not telling your mom about this. You will need to go to the doctor a lot to ensure this baby has the best chances of being born healthy. No she's not going to be happy but she will get over it and make sure she takes care of you. You need to get your life on track very quickly and get ready for this baby. A baby is going to change your life forever. Please do the right thing and tell your mom today.

Answer 3

I don't think that it will be being pregnant that will be the hardest thing to tell her, I think that telling her it was just some "randomer" who is the father that will be the hardest. Do you know who the father is? That would at least help with the blow of someone random. It's never easy for a mom or dad to hear their daughter is pregnant. I'm sure they will be disappointed and wonder what you are going to do. If you have plans on which you want to follow, such as finishing school...going to college..etc let them know you will still do these things. Tell them you know that it is a big disappointment and that you are sorry that you hurt them, but that it isn't the end of the world. Your future is not ruined, although it won't be easy, you will succeed.

Answer 4

you need support and so I suggest that you go and see your doctor asap, they can confirm your pregnancy and go through your optiond with you. I realise that it will be hard for you to tell your mum and thats understandable but I think that she would be more hurt the longer you keep this from her. Yes she has her own beliefs and she is entitled to that but your her daughter and she loves you so am sure that she will come round in time. If you chat to your doctor then maybe they can call your mum with your consent and explain things to her, or make an appointment with your doctor and bring your mum with you so you all talk about it together. You say that the babies daddy is a 'random' however you must know who you have slept with and who the possible dad or dads are and so this is very important, your baby deserves to know his or her dad and equally the dad has a right to know that your expecting or might be expecting his baby. You are young but if you want this baby then I am sur you will be a good mum, dont give up on your education set an example to people and stick in with school and study, you have your babies future to think of, get support from doctors, midwifes and friends and see about financial support from the social security until your able to work and provide for you and your baby. good luck

Answer 5

i got pregnant at 14 my mum is not religious but strict she did not find out till i was 6months gone now my nan is very religious and i have more respect for her than any body i know when i told her she said if this is gods will it will be which left me in totall shock and still does 10 years later i had the child against my mums wishes and i will never regret having him but i so wish it happened later you no Ur self what u want you don't need a man i did it alone and so do many women i wish u luck and hope Ur mum understands

Answer 6

im sorry to say this but i envy you i wish i was pregnant so much right now. but yeah as every 1 has said it will not be easy i would suggest writing a letter and when you know your mum will read it make shaw your out of the house give her a while to cool off. But no matter what you do unless you want to do not let her force you to get an abortion this is your baby your body your choice. this may sound stupid but i would gladly talk to you mum my email is [e-mail] and my mob is 0431168721 feel free for you or your mum to call or email me. i work with young mothers most of them younger then you.

good luck sweet

Answer 7

well i know how u feel because i was 14 and pregnant with my first child and my mom was the same way the only i hated the most is i let her find out from other people. instead of telling her myself i think you should write your mom a note or find an adult you feel comfortable with and have them tell her just remember no matter what happens god still loves you regard less of what anyone says
p.s it your decision to decide what you want to do with this pregnancy nobody Else's

Answer 8

I'm not religious but I dont believe that teens should have children either. The majority of people would agree with me. I would go talk to a counselor at planned parenthood first.

Answer 9

I think you should just tell your mum the truth. probably if you got a member of your family who you are close with to support you that may help, the longer you leave it the more difficult it will be to hide the pregnancy, wish you the best of luck xxx

Answer 10

Just say mam we need to talk and sit her down at the table.Tell her its canny bad and she will automatically think the worst. Start crying and she will either show you her support of blow up. Give her a few days afterwards to let the news sink in. Thats how me and my sis did it...gud luk x