My daughter asked if her friend could come to church with us. I told my daughter to have Lucy’s parents call me. I wanted to make sure I explain that we are Baptist and I wanted to make sure it was ok with them. Well my daughter came back and told me her step-dad doesn’t believe in God nor does he believe in organized religion. However Lucy could attend Church with us, however they will have nothing to do with it. Basically, every Sunday Lucy would spend the night Saturday or I would pick her up Sunday. A few months later, I moved across town and picking Lucy up isn’t easy for me. So I asked if someone could drop her off at my home Sunday morning. Lucy told me her dad said he will not have anything to do with Church. So I asked about her mother. She then confessed that before her mother got remarried they would go to Church all the time. Then they stopped when her step-dad came along. I am wondering if I am doing the right thing.Especially if her family doesn’t believe in God.
2007-02-07 03:29:00 · 18 answers · asked by Renee 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
my husband and I are atheists, but our children go to church with their Grandma, and my oldest attended a Jewish preschool. I think that if Lucys parents have no problem with it then there is no reason for you not to take her. Just because I am an atheist does not mean i will force my children to be. It is in there best interests to get information from all sides in order to make an informed decision later in life about their faith or lack thereof. I think that any parent worthy of the title would feel the same way.
I think you are doing fine.
2007-02-07 03:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful that Lucy wants to go to church, and you're willing to take her. What a wonderful friend to her! It's so sad that her stepdad won't have anything to do with it even though her mother obviously disagrees but won't speak up. We are in a very similar situation with my daughter's friend - the little girl enjoys coming to church with her, and her parents permit it occasionally, although her father is a professed atheist.
As long as Lucy wants to come to church and her parents will allow it, do what you can to keep bringing her. It sounds like it's a little more difficult now that you've moved - does your church, by chance, have a van that picks up people on Sunday mornings that might not have a ride otherwise? Or is there someone else in your congregation that lives closer to Lucy that might give her a ride - if her parents will allow it, of course? If all else fails, perhaps you could mention the situation to your pastor - maybe he'll have a suggestion for you.
Best of luck, and God bless!
2007-02-07 11:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by ragmama210 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad that a women would give up her faith for a man, and give up on teaching her child about God for a man. I think you are doing the right thing, it's good for Lucy to know that even though her step dad and her mom have turned their backs on God, God doesn't turn his back on anyone. Adults learn from children constantly, maybe Lucy's mom will learn from Lucy, and she will get her priorities straight.
2007-02-07 11:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really nice of you! Yes, I think you are doing the right thing! Why don't you ask Lucy's Mother if she would like to join you all on Sundays!? You are very kind and Heart-Warming I agree with the woman below me God Bless!
2007-02-07 11:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are absoultely doing the right thing. This looks like's Lucy's only opportunity to fellowship with other believers in the Lord. The Lord will definitely reward your efforts. What a wonderful witness your daughter is. You should be proud that you raised a child who is not ashamed of the Lord. God bless you both.
2007-02-07 11:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by huskygirl74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is Lucy's decision. She seems to want to go, and the parents do not care, so why not. It would be good for her, and possibly her parents. At least the parents are letting her have a say in her religion. It is not like that with some families. I would reccommend taking her to church with you.
2007-02-07 14:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Popsicle_1989 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the mom stopped taking Lucy to church to please the stepdad. That's sad. Yes ignore her parents and take Lucy to church. Maybe she can convince her mother to come to church as well if she knows how much Lucy likes going.
2007-02-07 11:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if lucy wants to continue going to church then yes your doing to right thing
just cause her step dad won't believe in religion shouldn't stop lucy from wanting to go to church
2007-02-07 11:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think her step dad is a jerk. i come from a family where no one believes in god or has ever gone to church and yet i have gone since i was 7 my parents or friends parents would take me. or find out if there is a person from you church that she could go with apart from you some1 that lives near her still
2007-02-07 12:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by jacquelinemeddows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice of you to offer taking another persons child to church with you, if it's not easy for you to take her anymore and the parents won't cooperate, there's not much more you can do. You cannot enforce religion on anyone let alone someone elses' kid. If her parents do not want her to go to chuch, then you can't make them take her. Sorry.
2007-02-07 12:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋