16 and pregnant!!!!!?

Question

I'm 16,pregnent and dont know how to tell my mam.She's religous and doesnt believin children before marage!How can i tell he????????

Answer 1

Say it again in English..?

Answer 2

i agree, i think you should def tell your mom. The question is though, do you want to keep your baby and are you ready to deal with it. Just know that you have a lot of options, and abortion is not always the answer and neither is keeping the baby. You can give it for adoption as well. All i am trying to say is do what YOU want to do. Not what your mom wants, what you want to do. Tell your mom you are sorry, but you wanted to come to her because you value her opinion and you go to her when you need help dealing with things. Your mother loves you and she may act very rash, but in the end it will end better than it begins when you first initially tell her. Be honest with her, because the longer you wait, the harder it will be.

And lastly, how sure are you that you are pregnant? Did you take a test or have you just skipped a period? I am only asking because I had a scare and had to face the same thing.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you, it always works out some how.

I also agree..... DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR EDUCATION

Answer 3

Hiya, I know someone who was in a similar position to you a few years ago. Firstly, you need to decide whether or not you intend you have this baby. You need consider your options: adoption, abortion or keeping the baby. Also, what support you will have, money, housing etc. Most importantly, you must remember that it is your life and your own decision. My parents are strict and 'religious' in most ways, but at the end of the day thats their choice not mine. While, yes your mother may indeed be shocked and disapproving, she should respect your choices and own beliefs. My aunty and uncle were totally against my cousin having her baby at first, as she was your age, at school and partner-less. However, they soon accepted it, despite being roman catholic and realised that it wasn't up to them to dictate the outcome. My cousin is living proof that it can work out, she has a beautiful baby girl, a well-paid job, a house and supportive family around her. I suggest you discuss it with a sibling, relative or family friend before telling your mam. However, if you do tell her make sure you have someone their to support you. Good luck.

Answer 4

You must tell your mom. You made the mistake so you have to live with it. I find that with many young pregnancies the mom will be against it fully, but then they seem to come around when the baby is born. I think you should have like a family intervention in which you have some of your close family members backing you up. Though you are young, you must present a plan on how you will work to support this child. You were responsible enough to make the child, so show your mom that you are responsible enough to raise the child.

Answer 5

HEY GUYS STOP READING THE RIOT ACT TO THIS GIRL....WHATS DONE IS DONE...SHE ASKED HOW TO TELL HER MUM....SHE DIDN'T ASK FOR ABUSE FROM PEOPLE THAT SHOULD KNOW BETTER.....where is the compassion...some of you really don't care do you....
I agree with alot of the good advice that you have been given...first of all you have to decide what is best for you....if you have the baby or not...once you kind of know which way you feel then sit her down and tell her the truth, its going to be hard and painful for the both of you...but stick to your guns and if you need to tell someone else that you can trust and talk to....maybe get them to be there when you tell your mum.
I wish you all the best with whatever you decide and hope that you get the support that you need xx

Answer 6

you should really go and talk to your mother and let her know what's going on because the longer you wait the worst its going to be. Because my little sister is now 16 and just had her baby boy in November 2006 and we didn't even found out that she was pregnant until she was 5 months but she knew from the get go but she kept it from us. And she had a lot of complication with her pregnancy that she didn't even know about..so sweetie please go and tell your mother because these things can be really serious she going to be upset with you truth enough but she'll understand in the end. Good luck sweetie and congrats

Answer 7

You need to talk to you mom. Be honest and explain that you know she might be upset and dissapointed, but you made a bad judgement call. This doesnt make you a "bad" person. You made a mistake, but this baby is NOT a mistake! Your mom is going to love you regardless of what mistakes you made. Consider if you want to raise this child as a family or if you want to bless someone else with the ultimate gift. Please do not consider abortion, this baby didnt ask to be killed before he/she has a chance to live. Just talk to your mom, be honest. Her relationship with God will allow her to know that we are just people, we make mistakes. Wish you the best with your mom! And being a mommy, 16 or 26 really is the greatest!!!

Answer 8

tell her because if u don't she'll find out. i don't know how but mum's always hav the knack of finding things out. the best way would be to sit her down n then tell her. if she shouts at u tell her that u r an adult n cn make u're own decisions but thought that it was important that she should know. Also get in touch with the father so u both cn stick together. lol
best of luck

Answer 9

Tell her you are very very sorry that you've made a Big Mistake and you need her help. Be prepared to deal with a lot of anger and weeping. She will come round eventually, but will be desperately upset and disappointed that her little baby is having a baby!!

Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

It is up to you when and how you wanna tell her but first thing is first you need to decide what yo want to do and whether you want to keep it or not?
You are gonna have to tel her at some piont and after all isnt religion all about forgiveness etc..
hope it all works out for you
just remember there is not much she can do its your baby
good luckx

Answer 11

it is scary, i know. im 17 and 32 weeks pregnant. both my parents wanted me to get an abortion, but i didnt want to. i got married to the father of the baby ( we had been together for 3 years anyways and were already planning on getting married ) and now i live with him, and everything is fine w/ my parents. it took them a while to adjust, but they did. just tell your mom in a situation where you feel comfortable, and no matter what she says to you, know that its b/c she loves you and it scares her that her baby is having a baby. but if you decide to keep the baby, she will love it more than anything. do what you think is right. its your choice. good luck!