First things first....GET A LAWYER...I went though this a few years ago, and I lost because I did not have a lawyer to help with my case....she ofcourse got a legal aid lawyer due to her lack of income...which only helped her case....
Don't go to court alone...although you may go there empty handed, the judge will simply cut them off.
2007-02-07 03:26:05
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answered by Anonymous
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I'm in the military but i worked as a legal clerk for many years before .. If you ever go to court without a lawyer - not only are you at a loss you are a fool.. the court system supports itself and if you're not paying into the system with cash - such as hiring an attorney they your paying for it another way - out your (x) attorneys have better understanding of what's going on in the court room than the regular public ever will and attorneys often ask for judges they have a relationship with so level the playing field and stop trying to save that little 250.00 retainer it'll wind up costing you 25,000 in the long run
2007-02-07 03:34:04
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answered by stuknasandbox 1
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Yes. I assume the child support mod is for increased child support. The judge will look at your not having a lawyer as a sign of snubbing the entire court system. Her attorney will take advantage of you. The child support industry is a bias'd and unjust system set up to steal as much money from you and not necessarily give it to your ex. The laws are set up to favor the mother, lawyers and the state. Her lawyer, the court and the child support enforcement agency will ignore the bias'd laws and do everything they can get away with. Since every state receives money from the federal government based on the amount of child support they collect, the entire system is corrupt and rotten to the core. "For the best interest of the children" is a trump card used to mean what ever anyone does to you to get more money, they are justified whether what they did was illegal, immoral or unjust. The end justifies the means. From one who has fought my ex and the child support mafia for 15 years, you need a good lawyer. Research online for local or state wide father's support groups and other father's to get the best lawyer you can afford. Now the bad news. From my experience, child support goes in one direction only...up. If you have a decent job and make a decent wage, you are punished by having to pay more money. The mother on the other hand never gets punished for anything even if she ignores court orders. You on the other hand are expected to hold the letter of the law. However, if you dont make allot of money or you dont hold a steady job many times the courts wont even bother you. I am not condoning this only stating fact.
The real advice I can tell you is to stay true to yourself. Try not to stoop down to the courts and lawyers and maybe even your ex's level. Remember you have to live with yourself. Try to always do whats best for your children. You will probably have to learn to accept to be a visitor in your child's life. You ex will have total say in anything concerning your child and you will have very little if any control. You may have to endure parent alienation syndrome in which your ex will do everything she can to turn your child against you. Fathers are typically treated like we are all deadbeat dads. Hang in there. Seek out the God and Jesus who made you. Try to rejoice in small victories. Take one day at a time. I pray that your ex will be reasonable with you. Dont talk about your ex in front of your child even if your ex fills them with lies and half truths. No matter what happens to you, try not to be bitter and try to remain true to yourself.
Take care and God bless you.
2007-02-07 03:55:24
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answered by Daniel C 1
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He could be. There are guide lines for the amount of child support that will be ordered and hopefully the judge where you are will follows these. If you have had an increase in pay since the first order, you may be paying more. However, if you have had a decrease in pay since then, it could be less. Your best bet is to have your own lawyer if you can afford it. You can do research on your own to protect yourself from being overly charged.
2007-02-07 03:35:23
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answered by mayihelpyou 5
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except the female is neglecting the youngster, it extremely would not count number. in case you imagine the youngster is being left out, call baby protection for that county/city/state. in the different case, the courts haven't any corporation monitoring how someone spends the money. I pay over 7400 money a three hundred and sixty 5 days in baby help. My daughter has outfits, college resources, eats properly, is healthful, has her personal mattress room, and does properly in college. i ought to care a lot less how her mom spends that money see you later as she takes ideal care of my 7 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous toddler. And, the perfect element i decide on is a few decide (i.e. flesh presser) playing massive brother with how my daughter is raised.
2016-12-03 20:38:04
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answered by Anonymous
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Child support is set by guidelines, not by you thinking she already has plenty of money. You would be wise to have a lawyer, but I can tell you now that you are wasting your time, money, and energy even bothering. Not only that, if you have received any raises since your last order you might very well end up paying more child support than you already are. You have 4 years left to pay....is it really going to make that big of a difference?
2007-02-07 04:57:15
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answered by vickyc76 2
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For my understanding and for I hear from wommen who do have attorney most men do not have attorney so I think it does not matter if the man has one or not the courts wants best for the children. I think a man can give you a better answer who has been through it.
2007-02-07 03:34:36
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answered by cmaymay26facaringperson 2
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This may very well be... I feel you have a much stronger chance in court with things with an attorney however. Looks much better to a judge and court to have legal representation.
2007-02-07 03:26:07
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answered by Lady Hewitt 6
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You wanted to play, now it's time to pay.
It would be smart to have an attorney but the court has documentation that indicates the amount of support allowable. There's not a lot an attorney can do for you except present a professional whine that you have bills, too.
2007-02-07 03:25:41
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answered by Blue 6
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Not necessarily. Child support is based upon both of your incomes. She can only get so much depending on the difference. She can also be given credit (and you can too) for any child care and insurance expenses or if either of you have other children to care for.
2007-02-07 03:46:54
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answered by stacilynn26 3
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