my sister in law just sent me an e-mail siteing that she was haveing an affair on her husband of 4 years and 3 kids, and not to tell my husband her brother. would you keep your mouth shut or not?
2007-02-07 03:16:22 · 25 answers · asked by dirt77 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a horrible terrible thing.. Mind your business.. It's just going to cause problems in your house hold and create tension between your husband and you and more and likely he's going to be mad at you it's an emotional rollercoaster..an everyone's going to have an opinion on what should be done.. but only the people involved can solve the problem so leave it up to them to do what they will and just be happy and pray it never becomes a problem in your home..
2007-02-07 03:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by stuknasandbox 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God... why would she go and do that.. i would inform your sister in law that you are going to have to tell your husband... as lying in a relationship will only cause trouble..... her marriage is over now whether she stops this affair or not!!! so tell your husband but make sure you two are alone so ye can have a quiet chat and decided what to do...tell her husband or not (for the sake of the kids)
but dont bare this secret alone... if your husband found about the affair and knew you knew about he would be very dissapointed... that you didnt trust him, and remember that she told you cause she could not keep it anymore..
2007-02-07 11:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by lollie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Having been the woman whose spouse had an affair, I would have been truly appreciative of any of my friends, family or acquaintances coming forward to let me know what was going on. By telling you this and telling you not to tell, she has also put you in the awkward position of being dishonest with your husband by not telling (which is wrong of her). Her affair is not worth breaking the honesty of your marriage, so yes, I would definitely tell my husband if I were in your position. She's doing something dishonest, and if you don't say something about it, you are being an accomplice and condoning her actions.
2007-02-07 11:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my sister-in-law can tell me something of that nature its a signal she needs someone to talk to. So, i'll talk with her deeply to find out more. If i got you right, you did said "was having an affair" meaning its no more going on and she must have come to her senses and wants to clear-up her guilt.
like i said, i'll talk with her deeply to find out her reason for disclosing such an issue with me and also find out how she feels about the whole situation. My meeting or talking with her will determine whether or not there's any further step, like talking with her brother(my husband) and finally confessing to her own husband.
It solely depends on her and my lips are zip-up if that's what she wants.
2007-02-07 12:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would keep my mouth shut. One, it's none of your business. Two, how do you know she's not testing you to see if you are the gossip she thinks you are?
You'll cause more family friction by sharing this information with anyone. Delete the e-mail out of your trash can and be quiet.
2007-02-07 11:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would she send it in an email? Maybe Call & talk to her about it... If it will just get YOU into trouble, keep your mouth shut. If it will make a difference & he will leave her... tell. But, if it won't, you'll look like the bad guy for telling.
2007-02-07 11:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would email her back and tell her to tell her husband now within a day or two and then if she does not then you have no choice but to tell him for her. He deserves to know the truth. She should not have told you if she did not want him to find out. This was very unfair of her to tell you not to tell him. This is just wrong.
2007-02-07 11:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she is wanting to get caught. Why else tell someone who is related to her husband. You have to tell your husband and let him make that decision.
2007-02-07 15:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell! She obviously thought she could confide in you! It is not your place and you do not want to be in the middle of that anyway! Though on the other side of it....I tell my husband everything but my friends know not to tell me anything they do not want him to know!
2007-02-07 11:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kipers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well answer this. if ur husband was cheating would u want to know? tell her she has 24hrs to tell or u will that its not worth losing ur man for keeping secrets from. she needs to grow up. i think she wants u to tell so she dont have to. but dont get wrapped in her drama and secrets and lies and put ur own marriage in trouble.
2007-02-07 11:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋