Things are going good with my husband. We have been getting along and not arguing maybe a little disagreement here and there, but nothing major. He works 6 days a week. He is taking online classes and raising my child as his own. He is working hard to get ahead in life so that we could have it good. I feel bad to say this but, I am bored with my husband. Everyday he tells me he loves me and I love him soo much as well. But why am I having these feelings towards my husband? Is this normal? Does this make me a bad wife?
2007-02-07 03:12:46 · 15 answers · asked by What_if 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It does not make you a bad wife. I have come across the same situation in my marriage. It helped me when I would put in that little extra effort (i.e. an extra nice dinner, dress up nice, call in sick to spend a whole day together just relaxing. In this case I guess he would have to call in sick.) Either way I would just explain to him that while you fully understand his motivations and how hard he is working you would like to have him all to yourself for just a little bit each day. Head to bed a little earlier and stay up talking or just cuddling. You don't have to take a vacation away from home to reconnect. Figure out a time that works best to have a complete sit down dinner, phones off, child at grandma and grandpa's, and just enjoy each others company. I found that a good competitive game of Monopoly makes for excellent quality time and can get very fun. It may seem childish but sometimes just having a little fun together can be the best thing for a relationship.
2007-02-07 10:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by lifesajourney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you feel he is not giving you enough attention and you are bored and want some excitement. This is normal in my book and no it does not make you a bad wife. A bad wife would go out and cheat on her husband. Suggest going out once in awhile, have some fun and come home to end the night with some passionate love making.
2007-02-07 03:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kickin' Back 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not bad. Everyone feels like this every now and again. You need to re-connect. Maybe you two could find a sitter for the weekend and go out-of-town. If that isn't possible, you could just go out for an evening. It sounds like he's busy and you are lonely. Try talking to him about it - I'm sure he'll be receptive.
If you leave things the way they are now...you'll get into trouble with your marriage so you must do something about it!
2007-02-07 03:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your husband is really trying to make a better life for you and your child. I think that you should pamper him while he is in school and encourage him to keep up the good work. After he graduates, he will be making more money and will not have to work so hard. Then you can spice things up more and make things more interesting.
2007-02-07 09:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Oh My! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal and no you are not a bad wife at all... fall in love with your husband all over again and try new and fun things with him that you have never done before. try dating again and spicing things up in the bedroom. Go for walks together and how about a nice romantic weekend in a nice hotel room with a jaccuzzi. Have fun with it . You may also need counseling too .
2007-02-07 03:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have entered a "rut" in your marriage. You need to go back to doing things with him that u used to do. Think back to when your relationship was exciting and what kind of things u did then, then u don't do now. If u don't do something about the rut now, u will end up drifting apart, and then u will love him, but not be "in love" with him anymore. You can get back to how it used to be if u don't let too much time pass. Sometimes life becomes structural and serious, and we forget how to have fun and enjoy life........... there needs to be a balance.
2007-02-07 03:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Amber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a bad wife, and your feelings are quite normal. He's very busy, and you're feeling neglected. Plan something romantic for his down time, and put the spice back into your marriage. Things will get better, just be patient, and value the free time you do have together. Good luck!
2007-02-07 03:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt this way too with my BF. You're not bored with him from the way it sounds, but maybe the daily routine has got you stuck in a rut. My advice; take a weekend trip together, alone, and see if that sparks things up again. If you still feel "bored" with him, by all means speak to a relationship therapist.
2007-02-07 03:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by tiny Valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it makes you the B word. I feel sorry for your husband to have a wife like you.
2007-02-07 03:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal, from what I can see.
The problem isn't that he doesn't pay you enough attention, the problem is you've domesticated him, and now find him less interesting. Encourage him to actually be a little more independant, and I suspect you'll feel more sparks then you do now.
2007-02-07 07:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋