what do i do if i find out my husband is gay ?

Question

well i caught him waring my high heel shoes and nylons and foud dress up gloves in his brief case

my husband hes not gay hes says this is a fetish . but he says he feels close to me and does this when hes horny when i am not around or beacuse i wont have sex with him beacuse he is a cross dresser

Answer 1

Divorce him.

Answer 2

The way I see it, your husband has told you something that must have been very hard for him to disclose. His honestly was open to an unexpected reaction from you, but now you know about it.
The pleasure he derives from feminine clothes is no reflection on whether you please him sexually or not, but is instead just a big part of who he is. His feelings for you are not in question here, nor his manhood. But, there must be a compromise between the two of you. He must be made to understand your feelings on the matter, and realize that it must be kept a private lifestyle and NOT taken out of the home. If you are going to respect his actions in this matter, then he must also respect yours. This is about both of you, not just him. His interest in dressing up might or might not be excessive, but he must be made to understand that it can only go sooo far, after that, he will lose your support.
This is all very strange to you I know, but it is a fairly common occurrence. The majority of men out there have one fetish or another, something they keep secret. I myself have a fetish for a women's feet if they have a nice summer look with painted nails. I found that my wife joined in with my fetish, and we then had an even better relationship.
Well I hope you learn to float along with him on this, best of life to the both of you.

Answer 3

Many cross dressers are not gay. But, here's what you must do:
1) get tested for STD's.
2) Sit down and discuss his sexual orientation.
3) If you become convinced he's straight and you can handle it, try to incorporate his urge to cross dress into your romantic play and you will own him for life. ie. Honey, if you paint the porch today, tonight I'll treat you like the bad little girl you are! Good Luck.

Answer 4

This doesnt mean he's gay. Some men like to dress like that and still like women. I would freak, no kidding I would FLIP OUT, but it doesn't mean he's gay. He needs to open up now, the cats out of the bag he might as well just speak up and tell you the truth. But try to be nice about it, and not judgemental, this may cause him to lie or shut down.

Answer 5

A good percentage of men that cross dress are not gay. It's a fetish...talk to him about it. If it doesn't bother you, let him know you are supportive and you can even incorporate it into sex.

Answer 6

He may not be gay he may be wanting to be a woman. talk to him and ask him about this and ask him if he is gay or bisexual. You really need to talk to him about it. If he is not happy with you and wants out of the marriage because he is gay or something like that then you let him go. First find out what exactly is going on with him though before making any final decisions on what to do with the marriage.

Answer 7

Gay men don't wear womens clothes. Cross dressers do. You have them mixed up, your husband is a cross dresser that's all.

Answer 8

Run like Forrest Gump!!!

Answer 9

Well, at least his Barbra Streisand collection no longer has to be hidden!

Answer 10

That is crossdressing, not being gay. It is weird for sure.
Become a lesbian...that'll learn him!! Or do him in the rear.....

Answer 11

you need to ask yourself if you OK wiht him wearing women cloths
remember it made him happy and if you good with that
Goodluck