Every time I have anything extra it ALWAYS goes to her. I think she needs to get a second job. She is 52 and says she is too old to work a second job. The apartment she lives in is in my name, the utilities are in my name. So when she is late paying as usual I have to call the landlord. When the power gets shut off that is on my account. I just got married and I want to live life. It's embarassing for me to have to flot a rent check for her on my checking account. I got her a checking account and it got closed due to unpaid pay day loans. she just started back working last year after being out of work for 1.5 years. i supported her while in my last year of college. she is in good health. I am only 26 years old and feel like i am raising a child. I dont want any kids because of this. She has ruined it for me. PLease help me!
2007-02-07 03:00:21 · 10 answers · asked by allen27 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont mind helping her but why should i help her if she is being irresponsible. She always thinks i have money. i feel like i am being used. she never asks anyone else for any money. only me. i can understand a couple of times but every time she is in a bind i have to help her out if i dont she doesnt eat, goes without power etc. she says she is too old for a second job. but yet has money $20 to go to the dollar store. She came to live with me had no job and basically used my house like it was a storage facility. Boxes were stacked from the floor to the window. If a fire would have broke out we couldnt get out any windows. I got fed up and moved in with my fiance. We are now married and i have no desire to have children because of what she has done to her only female child.
The apartment and utilities are still in my name. When i tell her i want to put it in her name she says no because the landlord might not give it to her. PLEASE HELP ME. I AM AT THE END OF MY ROPE.
2007-02-07 06:30:33 · update #1
When your lease is up refuse to renew. Get the utilities turned off, and let her fend for herself. You have a wife who needs your attention. It would be different if she was trying to do better for herself, but she is using you.
2007-02-07 09:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by Oh My! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for your mother to stand on her own two feet. I'm 57, and worked two jobs for years, and just started working one job a year ago. We do what has to be done. Stop bailing her out, and she'll learn to live within her means! She could get a roommate, or move to a place she can afford. It's time for your mother to be an adult. Don't feel bad about your decision, but do be firm!
2007-02-07 03:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being a little ungreatful, or jsut plain frustrated. She has done the same for you, for at least 20 years, take a deep breath and calm down. Try to find affordable housing for her, and something that goes by her income, this should be easier for the both of you. She should be able to pay her bills is she was in something affordable for her. It shouldn't be embarassing for you because a son who does well by his mother is a sign of a good man. It's better than one of this people who stick their parents in nursing homes and forget they exist.
2007-02-07 03:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has hard as it is, you must not keep doing this. You have become the parent and her the child. She knows that you will rescue her whenever she needs it and will never learn to take care of herself. She is not old by any means so you need to get everything out of your name and put into hers. She is irresponsible and needs to grow up, but if you keep saving her a$$ all the time, she won't. You don't need to ruin your credit at your age. Time to have your mother take care of herself now. It won't be easy for her since you have coddled her for so long, but it must be done. Learn to say NO!
2007-02-07 03:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off you need to get the rent and utilities out of you name. She could ruin your credit. I can understand helping her as it is the honorable thing as she raised you from birth but in turn she needs to take the responsibility of her bills.
2007-02-07 03:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a selfish child what about all the time she cared for you when you were little and all she is asking is for you to help her . My mother is passed away and I would have done anything for her and that includes paying her bills .My husband would understand that as he has his father still and we help him . Dont be so selfish and help your mother . I cant believe people like you and I am so glad my kids did not turn out like you .
2007-02-07 04:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to say enough is enough!!! She is old enough and lived enough life where she should be responsible, if not she needs to fall on her face and find a way to pick her self back up. If I were you I would take everything out of your name and put it in hers. She is mooching off of you because you are allowing it to happen. I bet your wife will not sand for this forever either.
2007-02-07 03:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Niecy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur not only one, i had same problems with this. but hey ur mother should have SSI = Supplemental Security Income.
SSI makes monthly payments to people who have low income and few resources and are:
Age 65 or older;
Blind; or
Disabled.
here the website that ur mother should have apply this SSI to get money every months she get.
http://www.ssa.gov/pubs/11000.html
hope this help! when she get SSI and then she won't take ur money no more.
2007-02-07 03:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEEN there DONE that. At some point you are going to have to draw the line and say this is it.
2007-02-07 03:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And so many women say they love being mothers and enjoy motherhood.
2007-02-07 03:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋