2007-02-07 02:56:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow! you stayed in an unhappy situation for 18 years... I really can't relate.... you see people think I am a bit of an odd-bod because if a relationship is making me unhappy I leave... hence my longest relationship is three years... (though my present relationship is three years this easter and it seems to be getting better all the time so I may break my own record this year..hopefully)
I watched my mum struggle back and forth in her marriage to my dad.... she was unhappy with him and unhappy without him...
2007-02-07 07:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to do it so you just have to say it. If it was not good for 18 years then i am sure you partner knows it to. Just be honest and try to leave on a good note. If you have children the you need to do it quietly and make the children understand that it has nothing to do with them. But 18 years in an unhappy marriage did not go unnoticed by your partner so i am sure it will not be such a shock, they might even feel the same way.
2007-02-07 03:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very tough question. I left after 20 years of a bad marriage. For me, recognizing that the kids were getting the wrong idea of what marriage should be was incentive for me.I won't say it was easy but it certainly was a relief.
Trust that a new part of your life is beginning. Don't look back and don't second guess. We all have regrets in our lives. Just make sure that your regret doesn't last longer than 18 years. Life is short and it can be sweet. Good luck to you!
2007-02-07 03:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those that say you just pick up and leave and don't look back are uninformed. Your heart just doesn't let you leave and go on as if nothing happened. It will be painful for you and others. If you have children it will be even worse. This just isn't simple emotionally, financially, or legally unless you were in an abusive situation. You will need someone to help support you. But do it; you'll get over it with time.
2007-02-07 03:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by matthew34102 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a waste of life. Think of all the partners you could have been with if you had not been locked down by marriage. This is one of the reasons why I think the LIFE SENTENCE of marriage should be banned.
What other deals out there are for life even when things go bad?
What a SCAM marriage is!
2007-02-07 03:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take a deep breath, exhale, and try to get in the zone. (Like I did this morning when I turned on the Native American Flute cd in my car trying to get in "warrior stance" mentally.) You do some inner soul searching,and really make sure this is what you want, and determine if you're unhappy enough to really walk out of it for good. Then you just take the plunge, like leaping from a bungee cord. It's scary as ****, and will take your breath when you actually do it, but if it's right, and it's time, you'll be okay, and somewhere down the road, you will look back and say, "Whew, I made it." Good luck to you. It's not easy, but it's doable.
2007-02-07 03:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard but you know what ? I found a really nice guy and I'am THANKFUL I did leave my hubby after 19 years of beeing married to him now my kids have grown to love him and I love his kids to so do not think you will always be a lone be strong and it will get a lot better if you leave I just know that the first step is the hardest IF you just want to talk you can OK E-mail me OK
2007-02-07 03:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What took SO long. You only have 1 life , so don't waste another minute in a unhappy marriage.
2007-02-07 03:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get a lawyer
2. Save some money back
3. DO NOT involve the kids... tell them it is not their fault.
It will be tough.. but be HONEST for god's sake you owe your partner that afte 18 years.
It was very very very very hard for me... but now 4 years later, I am glad it happened... but it was the most devestating thing that has ever happened to me. I would not wish it on my worst enemy.
2007-02-07 03:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes 2 to tango. She will possibly no longer have had her desires met, yet nevertheless, she would in no way have expressed "new" desires. it relatively is hard in some cases to acknowledge those desires in a dating. We improve, we modify and would float aside "with ease" in a dating. additionally evaluate the dynamic that if her desires weren't being met, that yours weren't the two. it relatively is the "why ought to i in my view care in case you do no longer" syndrome we are able to all fall into, despite if we are no longer attentive to it. She needless to say reached the "combat or flee" element interior the dating, for despite reason (a decision of annoyances or consistent with possibility the will for something new... boredom, loneliness?). it relatively is in all possibility extra durable to combat and communicate relating to the themes, however the internet makes it hassle-free to flee and in no way circulate away the domicile. on the internet you're precisely what you pick others to think of (i.e. the achievement of predatory habit on line) so the grass no longer basically appeared greener over there for her however the different guy to boot. Too late in charge and worry. purely take the time to benefit despite classes you are able to out of your end and on hers... and circulate alongside.
2016-12-17 11:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by flintroy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋