2007-02-07 02:51:03 · 9 answers · asked by sunnyag53 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
he just needs reassurance
2007-02-07 02:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A child at that age only cries when he is in need of something, even if it is only reassurance from you. If you are trying to put him down so that he can sleep on his own, try checking out the book, "The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Babies" by Elizabeth Pantley (see source below). She has some fantastic ideas for getting babies to learn how to soothe themselves to sleep without crying it out. If he isn't tired, he probably needs something from you. If you've ruled out the usual (diaper, feeding, hot/cold), consider whether he is uncomfortable for some other reason. Lots of babies begin teething around 4 months of age (and some sooner), so it's possible that your baby is teething and needs some relief. Your baby should be old enough for some infant tylenol (check with your doctor) or Orajel. It's so hard when they are so little and you just never know what it is that is upsetting them. Maybe he has a tummy ache? Maybe he has an itch and just doesn't yet have the coordination to scratch it? Imagine how that would make him feel if he had a need that he couldn't meet, and instead of trying to take care of it, the one person he thought he could rely on to take care of him just ignored it and let him cry. I think your instinct is already telling you that. Even if you can't figure out what the problem is, maybe holding him just helps him cope with whatever the problem might be. Good luck!
2007-02-07 11:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by calliope_13731 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear do not listen to those who say you cannot spoil a baby that young its not true I thought the same thing my husband tried to warn me and he has other kids from previous marriage and I didn't listen. My daughter now still has trouble sleepin at 18 months old she will wake up periodically and the only way to get her back to sleep is for me to go in there and lay her back down she needs me to soothe her when she should be able to self soothe. Let your baby cry as long as possible if he is fed,dry,and all otherwise healthy and fine it is for attention and he needs to learn to self soothe I have number two on the way I can promise you I will be doing the same thing I don't wanna have to get up in the middle of the night for another 18 month only to lay them back down. Good Luck.
2007-02-07 11:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep yourself from going and picking him up. At least not too quickly, because then he is going to want you to hold him all the time. I would wait a good ten minutes just to see if he would stop. He is still young, but I would try this every time he starts, just so he can learn that mommy needs some time to her self.
If it is when you put him to sleep, try sitting there with him for another ten minutes just to make sure he is in a deep sleep, then try putting him down.
2007-02-07 13:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sheena C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is so used to you picking him up every time he whimpers. I know it is hard as my son is 16wks and I have him ruined as well. Just leave him cry until he is in a terrible state i.e when it is no longer a whimper. Then when he is settled place him back down. Keep this up and he will learn that crying is not going to get him up into your arms for long and that it is not worth crying.
It took me two weeks of putting him to bed when he is awake and not really picking him up for him to realize that I am not always going to keep picking him up. Now he is quite content.
Best of luck - I know it is hard but be strong x
2007-02-07 11:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Angels are everywhere! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends how long you can handle it, some of us are a softy when it comes to a little crying baby. You can't spoil a baby at that age. Do what you think is best for you and the baby...That housework is'nt going anywhere.
2007-02-07 11:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by tuttyp613 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sleep? As long as you can take. I never liked the "cry it out method". Put him down before he is completely asleep.
Not for sleep, try a bouncer or swing.
2007-02-07 10:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he he... don't you know even at that age you baby is learning you. He knows that if he crys you'll pick him up. You'll notice this with all kinds of things as he gets older.
2007-02-07 16:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Tara Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sunny,
If it's in reference to sleep....
It may take longer, but try and get him into a sleeping position in your arms and walk him around and bounce him lightly. Make sure he's really asleep before you put him down - for instance, if he's deep asleep, his arms will be limp when you pick them up lightly and drop them.
-j.
2007-02-07 11:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by classical123 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋