I am 5 weeks pregnant, I think I have told about half the world lol*. i am so excited! My hubby and I have been talking about starting a family for about a year and we starting trying in January. We conceived first try! Although my friend is 8 and a half weeks pregnant and she is very quiet about it and is so afraid of having a miscarriage and doesnt want to tell anyone although the news has spread b/c its a hard secret to keep. But she wont even tell our boss she is preg and i already told my boss i am. We work together. She has sucha sour puss look on pregnacy it's scaring the **** out of me thinking oh my god, maybe i shouldnt tell ne one i am pregnant either b/c what if something happens to my baby. Am i crazy for telling people i am pregnant this early. I am healthy so far so good says my doc & i have never had a miscarriage nor does my side or my hubbys side have a history of them, if that has ne thing to do with it? Or maybe she has a secret hist of miscarrying & never told me?
2007-02-07 02:43:06 · 11 answers · asked by Amos&Asher=MyBoys 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm 8 weeks pregnant and have told all my family, my husbands family plus a few friends. I have yet to tell my boss but it's just because I'm shy. I think it is a personal choice when you want to tell people. I can't keep a secret like that either....some people are more scared then others and wait that 3 months but they shouldn't put their believes onto you or make you feel bad for sharing earlier. The way I look at it is, even if I didn't tell anyone that i was pregnant and then I miscarried....it would be obvious to everyone that I was devastated about something. I would end up talking about it to people anyway because talking helps me. It's better to have support from friends and family, whether it's a good thing or a bad.
2007-02-07 06:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's different. The norm has become that people wait until the end of the first trimester, most likely because people are waiting longer to have kids and are requiring more assistance. As we require more assistance and get older, the risk of miscarriage goes up.
For most pregnancies, the rate is less than 20%. That 20% includes very early miscarriages, where the mother didn't even know she was pregnant and got her period on time. So, there's not a very high risk at all.
I told people rather early, but once I had my ultrasound. It's a matter of preference, and to be honest, you're better off having people know, even if you did end up having a miscarriage, because then you'd have a support system. People might be offended to find out only after you had a miscarriage.
2007-02-07 03:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the sam eworries as your freinds because of all the miscarriages I had heard from freinds about, but I was so excited to be pregnant after 2 years of trying that I told the whole world although I told my family (who wanted to go and buy stuff for the baby ) that they could not buy anything for it until I got into my 2nd tri mester and if they did I would not bring it home till I was done with my first trimester.
I am now 5months 2 weeks pregnant had an ultrasound yestersay I have a healthy boy inside that is a fighter and stubborn.
Good Luck and keep your head up!!
2007-02-07 03:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by neicee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone about telling everyone, her fears are there for a reason. Maybe once the doc sees a heart beat she will calm down and enjoy her pregnancy.
I didn't want to tell anyone until I saw the doc and the heartbeat of my little one, I was scared of having a miscarriage, but after I knew that the chances of a miscarriage was 97% after seeing the heartbeat the whole world found out.
Just give her time she will come around, pregnancy can be scary for some women, you have all these changes going on and you can't feel any evidence of your baby yet, just reassure her that you are there to talk to, and remind her how exoting it is to go through this together.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 03:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I just found out yesterday I am pregnant too!! I am so excited. We are planning on telling family in a month and friends at about 12 weeks. My best friend will likely find out sooner because I won't be wanting to go out for our weekly drink. I don't think there is a rule of when is best to tell people - just whatever feels right to you and your partner. I think if it feels right to you to tell everyone that is totally fine. If anything did go wrong with the pregnancy at least you would have a good support system. Best wishes!!
2007-02-07 04:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by ky4444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one is different. i was told not to tell anyone especially my boss till after 12 weeks, cuz then your out of the woods for miscarrying. i told my family and his the day i found out (i was 6 weeks), and my boss a week later. when your that excited its so hard to keep it to yourself. especially if your like me. as soon as i knew for sure, i was rubbing my belly and daydreaming about my baby. so i was a little preoccupied at work. i had to tell someone!! lol. dont let her bring you down. she probly has her own reasons for not sharing with the world just yet. she may have previous miscarriage. who knows. good luck!!
2007-02-07 03:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by ktbug0603 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!! I'm 5 weeks pregnant,too! I know it's hard to keep it a secret! We're trying not to tell anyone either because I've had 3 MCs.
Telling people won't "jinx" your pregnancy though!
2007-02-07 03:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by dog8it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a private person and didn't tell my office until I was 5 months along (there were rumors since I'm so tiny and the littlest bump showed) but if you're excited and want to share, then share. Not everyone feels that way though, so you shouldn't consider your friend a "sourpuss." I'm sure she's as happy as you are, but is just presenting it to everyone differently. Congratulations!
2007-02-07 03:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by keonli 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be excited! I told everyone right away,,,and then I had second thoughts... Maybe I should have waited till the second tri mester. Oh well, you already told everyone. Be happy! I'm sure everything will be fine. Don't worry about co-worker, everyone deals with things differently.
2007-02-07 02:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by Violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) it is time for you to celebrate and share. I healthy to share than keep it like a secret. You get a lot of healthy advices.
Some people are skeptical and worried about bad eyes and so on. Leave it to them.
Believe im god and have a healthy baby.
Congratulations
Take Care
2007-02-07 02:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by wakeupindians 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋