Should I tell him how i feel?

Question

well i have tjis friend that i've been knowing since the beginning of highschool, and we talk about everything. i don't keep anything from him and when i need him the most he is always there. I feel that he is the only boy thats knows me inside and out. he said he really likes me to,but i don't want to mess our friendship up,Should i tell him how i feel??? or should i just let things happen naturally between us, since i know he like me to.

Answer 1

Don't just rush into a relationship with him...you need to talk about it with him and decide if it's what you both really want. I know what it's like to fall for your best friend and it's really hard but you need to decide if a relationship with him is worth risking your friendship for. If you really think that it would last between you then go for it but if you don't think it will last long then I'd recommend just trying to put any romantic feelings behind you; no matter how difficult that may be. Once you've crossed over from just being friends to going into a proper relationship it can be difficult to go back but, at the same time, you don't want to regret that you didn't do anything about your feelings. Consider whether, if you just stay friends, you will always be wondering what would've happened had you taken it a step further. I'm sure you'll make the right decision but you need to talk to him about it. I didn't talk to my friend about it...we just let things happen naturally and then it ended up being confusing. He changed how he felt and really hurt me. It took me a long, long time to forgive him for how he treated me even though I know he didn't mean it. It came really close to ruining our friendship. And I can't honestly say I'm over him yet even thought it was quite a long time ago. I'm only a teenager as well so if you're an adult then your relationship could have even more serious consequences on your friendship.

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck and hope this helped!

Answer 2

Let me share a lil personal story with you that may help you out. I had this guy friend who I had known since the 3rd grade we were the best of friends did everything together.....hey what can I say we literally grew up together. Anyways we did end up dating on and off for like four years and even when we weren't together as a couple we were still the best of friends I loved him with all of my heart couple or no couple....anyways long story short we had broken up in our senior year of high school. For some reason this time it was different, I could feel that if I didn't tell him how much I truly loved him and how I wanted to be with him forever that I would lose him....He died a month later....I never got the courage to tell him what I felt and I lost him not only as my one true love but as my long time child hood best friend. I guess what I'm trying to get across is that if your friendship is that great you most likely will be even better as a couple. And if you don't make it as a couple then your friendship should still be strong enough to last through the break-up....please do this for me and go for it.....IT IS THE BEST to be in love with your best friend....I hate the fact that I did not tell Matt how I felt....but years later I know he knew how I felt and that is the only way i go on each day. I hope everything goes the way you want it too.

Answer 3

take it slow and natural. And don't pine - just enjoy your friendship. Pining usually turns into obsession, and that's not healthy for any relationship.

alittle later, when you are both older (you didn't say how many years you've known him) say grade 11, if you are still both feeling the same, talk about how you both feel about the possibility of maybe dating. Who knows, if you both feel the same and would like to try it out - it might not affect your friendship. Whatever you do - DON't introduce sex into the equation. There is nothing more damaging to any relationship than unconditional uncommitted sex. save sex for marriage.

Answer 4

yes you should tell him after all u always tell him how u feel & also talk abot everything then why not know? afterall a relationship is work on trust, truth, love etc

so pls let him know & if u have also some fellings about him then go on he loves u if u also then go ahead

if u say no to him he will not lost anyone but u will lost the one who really love u


best of luck for ur life


keep smiling

Answer 5

It's scaring because nothing can ruin a friendship like dating but nothing is better than dating a friend.
I say go for it, you know he has feelings for you, so tell him you might like to try dating and see how he responds.

Answer 6

I think you need to let him know how you feel and be gentle about it. Also keep an open mind and let things happen naturally if the do.

Answer 7

no longer commonly & on no account with somebody i do no longer have faith & understand fairly properly. i'm happy however which you're feeling extra effective & the argument has been resolved, so it relatively is advantageous to appreciate that conversing approximately issues can relatively make a distinction.

Answer 8

Let things happen naturally. Don't make promises and do not exclude anything.

Answer 9

I think you need to tell him how you feel... and quick.
Guys like that are really hard to find, besides what could be better the dating your best friend??

Answer 10

Frienship often ends in love, but love in friendship--never. Tell him...its natural to do so. Grab his hand and hold it.