I'm thinking about divorce?

Question

I've tried everything I know to get my wife to lose weight. I've talked to her, insulted her, told her how sexy other women were, showed her picture of other women to tell her how I wanted her to look and she still doesn't lose the weight. She says she has a hard time bacause she has to have a hysteroctomy in April and doesn't feel like exercizing but I think she's just lazy. Any other suggestions? I'm really thinking about leaving if she don't straighten up.

hey wait, before we got married i told her i didn't like fat women-she said she wouldn't gain weight-so don't be so judgemental

Answer 1

It sounds as though she's not holding up her end of the deal. As long as you are holding up your end, you have a right to be upset.

I would suggest getting a joint gym membership. if she is unwilling to go to the gym with you, then tell her you want a divorce.

Man, you really set yourself up for the wrath of the angry women on this one! I'll bet most of them are overweight and mad at men for not liking their fat azzes!!!

Answer 2

If anyone should get a divorce it should be your wife Because if I had to put up with all that you just mentioned I would have left you and your stupid ways a long time ago. You cant insult her and expect her to jump and as far as WHAT YOU WANT that says a lot about you. You are either ugly or well below the average size,for a man. Because that is all those people ever talk about. Leave her alone and she will lose the weight and if its a hysterectomy she is getting she will lose a lot of the weight there on the table. And if you have ever loved her than stand by her side and don't leave her alone at that time in her life.

Answer 3

No, I don't have any suggestions other than divorce her soon. She will be much happier with a man who loves her for who she is. It is so hard not to judge. This poor women is having a hysterectomy in a couple months and all you want to do is leave cause she has gained weight. What were your marriage vows? Do you believe in them? I don't think so. If you are not happy with your wife, then go. Do not insult her any more. She will never live up to your standards. Sorry. Your question is awful. I feel really bad for your situation, but mostly for your wife. Good luck.

Answer 4

You really want to know what I think?
She's better off without you, YOU ARE A SCUMBAG.
The meaning of marriage is to live as one flesh, to honor each other through all things. But you don't do that, you insult her, you look at other women with lust. You dishonor her at every chance.What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot and you were the chubby one and she was looking at other men?
What keeps me exercising and eating well is feeling great in my husband's unconditional love. I feel confident and good about myself and he pays me tons of compliments, and this keeps me wanting to look good for him. So start by loving your wife, really loving her. I also think she may have some of the signs of depression, and that you are making it worse. Ask her to maybe seek counseling, and start being supportive. A hysterectomy can be traumatic, and often makes some women feel like less of a woman. Having a butthead for a hubby only makes it worse.
Whether you know it or not, what you are doing to her is a form of abuse. You may want to go to counseling with her.
And when she does start exercising, why don't you do it with her?
I bet you are not as hot as you think you are and could stand to lose a few. Being supportive in this way is a great way for you to spend quality time together and be healthy.

Then again, you aren't going to take all this to heart so go ahead and divorce her. One of these days she'll find her spirit again, maybe a better man, and she'll be one of those sexy ladies who probably would never give you the time of day.

Answer 5

Why not try making it a team effort. Ask her to go with you for a walk, bike riding or perhaps a hike somewhere. Help her and support her along the way. You are probably making her feel worthless by showing her pictures of other women and saying how sexy other women are. Tell her she is sexy and can be more sexy if she will go with you on a run.

Also, if you don't like big women then why did you marry her in the first place? If you are so superficial you should have gone with someone else!

Answer 6

Well, you have tried insulting her in every way imaginable,so now why not try helping her lovingly to lose some weight. First of all, wait until after her hysterectomy. That is a very serious surgery and takes a lot for the woman to recover. Be there to help her through it and stop insulting her and hurting her self esteem. You are supposed to be her partner in life so be her partner not her enemy. Take a walk with her in the evenings, cook her a healthy meal sometime, but most of all love her for the person she is. You are tearing her apart right now and that is no way to motivate anyone. If you aren't willing to love her as she is, then she may be lucky to carry on without you. You have been very cruel to her.

Answer 7

You are thinking about getting a divorce on the sole fact that your wife is too big?? Well to each there own! I do agree with the others that you are totally going about getting her to lose weight the wrong way! Insulting her and lowering her self-esteem is not going to help accomplish what you desire. You need to support and help her. If you are not interested in putting worth the effort then get a divorce. Either way both of you will be better off.

Answer 8

First off, NO one should have to live up to someone else's standards, and that is what you are asking your wife to do.

Also, insulting her, and waving other women in her face? What is that? That is not helping her self esteem at all.

You actually could be the problem she has with her weight, you could be stressing her out so bad she is eating more or just don't feel like trying because no matter what she does, she will never be good enough for you.

Hell if I was her I would divorce YOU!

Plus, you need to ask yourself, did she have any of this extra baggage when you guys got married? Cause if she did, and you didn't like it then, then why did you marry her?

Answer 9

the people judging you are being offended and answering the poll as if you asked for personal opinions about you.or as if your wife was going to read it..judging by your name your a cynical m.f. but you thought about the situation enough to reach out -- so giving you some credit -(very little) i've been in somewhat similar situations with women not wanting to change some ways i didn't like about them when we were in relationships ..but my approach was much different.. see I asked her what would make her happy .. what does she need to make this a successful situation because as your wife she is suppose to want to please you and make you happy - really she's suppose to put you before herself ..BUT -You as a husband is supposed to love protect and put her before you so .. you need to change your approach and be active in helping her become what you need to be happy but you need understand women more and find a different approach..the last thing you want to do is compare her to any other woman - because you never know she'll turn around ..hit that gym become what you want and leave you for what she wants!! Right now you need to be supportive through the medical procedure and come up with a recovery plan and go from there..,
Just a suggestion ... I don't tell anyone to do anything -But We're all Adults here right?

Answer 10

Do her a favour, leave her. She doesn't deserve to be married to someone who cannot support her when she's going through such a traumatic time. Hysterectomies are performed only after a lot of consideration on the part of the docters as they need a great deal of recovery time. Abdominal surgery is very traumatic and a real husband would be there to support the women he married, for better or worse. I don't believe for a moment that you are that man. So let her find someone else, someone who will be there for her.

Answer 11

Poking fun at someone and telling them they are fat is not going to motivate them. If you really wanted to help you two could take a 30 minute walk together every day. Sometimes people do need motivation but you are going about it all wrong. She is about to have a serious surgery and you are too busy insulting her. She deserves someone better than you.